re: Social Media has created a society of narcissists

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Social Media has created a society of narcissists

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I agree, but the irony here is that you’re one of the most narcissistic, egotistical posters on this whole forum

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The Silent/Boomer/Gen X members of my family are just as narcissistic with social media as the younger generations.

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Yeah it’s definitely not exclusive to a generation. Just some younger generations have greater widespread use of social media.

The biggest things social media has done that has been harmful to society:

1. Given people a false sense of what life is actually like. It’s the worst case of keeping up with the Joneses I’ve ever seen as a result. And it’s destroying people and families.

2. Given stupid people a platform to spew all kinds of misinformation.

3. Exasperated existing mental health issues. Just had a training last week that talked about a Tik Tok and Twitter account that was teaching girls how to develop an eating disorder, fully intentionally.

4. Exasperate bullying and the like for kids. 30 years ago we didn’t have to worry about every embarrassing moment we ever had being online. If you don’t have a kid this age, you have no idea how brutal that shite is right now.

My ex used to bitch about the same thing to me. I found it to be SUPER unattractive. She's in her early 30s. I generally only post pictures of mountains and wildlife and such on social media.

My current gf doesn't giaf at all about social media and all of that horseshite, which is great.

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I have a lot of friends who have kids in the middle/high school range… at some point every single one of them has had to deal with some sort of issue that came about because of Snapchat, some of them have been down that road more than once.. yet, not a single one of them have taken Snapchat from their kids, and they continue to have issues because of it

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They’re afraid of socially isolating their kid. In all seriousness, kid’s social lives have become full integrated with social media and if you don’t have that access you’re an “outcast”. It’s a Catch 22 for most parents as a result.

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Why? Why let your kids run wild on these apps that create nothing but drama? Why let your kids have a platform where they can say what they want or send whatever pictures they want and then have absolutely zero way of monitoring or watching what your child is doing? It just blows my mind that people let their kids use this app

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Part of the problem is these kids are a hell of a lot more savvy than their parents when it comes to social media. I work with parents that don’t know what Discord is and think their kids still communicate using Facebook instead.

It’s a complicated issue at this point you have to address from multiple angles.

I remember thinking as a teen how cool it would be to have video phones.


Now, watching teens on them all the time and seeing how it has Changed the world for the worse. (“You liked this girls post!” “You didn’t block so and so when they unfollowed me.” “Your location said you were home but you weren’t answering my texts.”)

It’s nutso land. Pandora is out the box and i know i’m as guilty as anyone else but part of me wishes we could go back.

That’s another thing

Constant contact


I don’t think I could date in the world today. I’ve been with my wife for somewhere between 13 and 15 years so thankfully we don’t have to worry about that.. but I’ve talked to friends of mine and they talk about how the women they’re dating insist on keeping constant contact, texting and facebook messaging throughout the whole day. I just couldn’t do it. I hate being on my phone all the time and feeling like I have to carry on some sort of conversation all day via texting seems absolutely miserable to me


I think it’s time that, as a society, we do some deep soul searching on exactly what social media and having mini computers in our hands 24/7 is doing to our lives. It can’t be a net positive. Not at all. And I’m not casting stones here, I’m guilty of it as well sometimes

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Guy making the OP has about 600K posts on this site and others. Think about that.

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Jake knows what he's doing though. He knows this place created his alter ego after all the shite between him and Cauble was made VERY public when this place was in it's heyday.

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If people were more aware of how it effects their kids mental health it wouldn't be necessary. The problem is society can't resist the addiction.

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That's what I was referencing about kids have grown up with SM with parents who didn't understand what they were doing, who also got sucked in.

As was posted in response to this, watching ooold people develop narcissism has been a crazy ride.

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Why? Why let your kids run wild on these apps that create nothing but drama? Why let your kids have a platform where they can say what they want or send whatever pictures they want and then have absolutely zero way of monitoring or watching what your child is doing? It just blows my mind that people let their kids use this app

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The problem is that it's so ingrained that your kids are the weirdos. Picture whatever the worst weirdo click/status was at your middle/high school (D&D, Magic, skater, whatever). Kids who aren't on social media are the contemporary outcasts.

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That's what I was referencing about kids have grown up with SM with parents who didn't understand what they were doing, who also got sucked in.

As was posted in response to this, watching ooold people develop narcissism has been a crazy ride.

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IMO it has to do with this current generation being the first where social media has been fully integrated in their lives from start to finish.

Our (assuming you’re in mid 30s/40s) experienced a good chunk of our K-12 years without social media being this prevalent. So we didn’t really learn the pitfalls until this current generation went through it.