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Posted on 4/24/15 at 2:10 pm to jsquardjj
You decided somewhere along the way to have a child with someone. Then somewhere in that time it was decided to not be with that other parent anymore.
So now in your view the other parent is now a babysitter and you have these long weekends are rough. That 4/3 day split is rough. So now think about it in your childs' view. Stop being selfish and whining about how much your life sucks, because until this child is 18, he/she will have to go between two houses and two families. How rough do you think it will on them? How how is it for that child? You sound like a great parent.
So now in your view the other parent is now a babysitter and you have these long weekends are rough. That 4/3 day split is rough. So now think about it in your childs' view. Stop being selfish and whining about how much your life sucks, because until this child is 18, he/she will have to go between two houses and two families. How rough do you think it will on them? How how is it for that child? You sound like a great parent.
Posted on 4/24/15 at 2:11 pm to BROffshoreTigersWife
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, because until this child is 18,
doesn't stop there
Posted on 4/24/15 at 2:11 pm to 777Tiger
Legally it does. The kid can make his/her own decisions after.
But the child will still have spilt families. Hope their attitude is better than the parent who posted this.
But the child will still have spilt families. Hope their attitude is better than the parent who posted this.
This post was edited on 4/24/15 at 2:13 pm
Posted on 4/24/15 at 2:13 pm to BROffshoreTigersWife
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Legally it does. The kid can make his/her own decisions after.
and every milestone in the kid's life after 18 that they might want their parents to be part of?
Posted on 4/24/15 at 2:14 pm to BROffshoreTigersWife
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You decided somewhere along the way to have a child with someone. Then somewhere in that time it was decided to not be with that other parent anymore. So now in your view the other parent is now a babysitter and you have these long weekends are rough.
This! people need to make better choices about who they decide to have a child with.
Posted on 4/24/15 at 2:14 pm to jsquardjj
Is the child also your grandchild?
Posted on 4/24/15 at 2:15 pm to 777Tiger
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and every milestone in the kid's life after 18 that they might want their parents to be part of?
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The kid can make his/her own decisions after.
Posted on 4/24/15 at 2:17 pm to jsquardjj
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jsquardjj
Are you the 27 year old woman from New Orleans looking for a match on match.com?
Posted on 4/24/15 at 2:18 pm to BROffshoreTigersWife
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The kid can make his/her own decisions after.
ok, hey folks I'm graduating from college, Dad, you can come because you paid for it but not mom, hey folks I'm getting engaged, married, having a baby, and so forth, it's not that simple and won't end while you're on the topside of the earth
Posted on 4/24/15 at 2:22 pm to 777Tiger
Okay, you are being a little ridiculous. I didn't say any of that. Does it really matter who paid for what? No.
I'm saying that if the kid doesn't want to divide up his/her time between the two, then he/she doesn't legally have to. Maybe the kid wants to live with just dad now and visit mom when the kid wants to.
But hey, thanks for being overreactive.
I'm saying that if the kid doesn't want to divide up his/her time between the two, then he/she doesn't legally have to. Maybe the kid wants to live with just dad now and visit mom when the kid wants to.
But hey, thanks for being overreactive.
Posted on 4/24/15 at 2:25 pm to 777Tiger
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But hey, thanks for being overreactive.
your welcome, thanks for being a short-sighted dumbass
And again
Posted on 4/24/15 at 2:39 pm to jsquardjj
I didnt realize when you first posted that you are doing a thing where you have kid mon - thurs nite and dad has fri- sun.
Thats not good. For more reasons than have been mentioned so far. Its bad for you. Its bad for him. Its bad for kid.
Can you do something else peacefully, like roll to full every other week? Or is the dad jammed with work? If he's jammed with work you better play it real cool until he can get some help then do every other week.
Know this.
Thats not good. For more reasons than have been mentioned so far. Its bad for you. Its bad for him. Its bad for kid.
Can you do something else peacefully, like roll to full every other week? Or is the dad jammed with work? If he's jammed with work you better play it real cool until he can get some help then do every other week.
Know this.
This post was edited on 4/24/15 at 2:43 pm
Posted on 4/24/15 at 2:46 pm to Kracka
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I don't know how some people handle it so wellI almost ended up divorced last year, all because of me. And one of the main issues that had got me straight was the fact that I may see my son once maybe twice a week. I can't handle that shite. I don't see how people who divorce with children and remain functional when they are separated from their kids.
Please understand this: I love my children very much, but the family order should be husband and wife first, then childern. However, over the last 50 years or so, we have placed out childern on pedestals, and then we wonder why they turn out to be spoiled, self-absorbed brats and narcissistic adults. Do society a favor, love your childern and take responsibility for them, but, please, don't idolized them - get a hobby, learn to do things with and without them, and learn to be away from them. You and your child will be better off for it in the long run. Just my 2 cents...
Posted on 4/24/15 at 2:47 pm to atchafalaya
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I didnt realize when you first posted that you are doing a thing where you have kid mon - thurs nite and dad has fri- sun.
Thats not good. For more reasons than have been mentioned so far. Its bad for you. Its bad for him. Its bad for kid.
Can you do something else peacefully, like roll to full every ither week? Or is the dad jammed with work? If he's jammed with work you better play it real cool until he can get some help then do every other week.
We can definitely do everything peacefully, it is just hard with his schedule. He doesn't get off until about 6 on the weekdays so I would have to pick her up from school and drop her off at his house on the weekdays. Its not a problem for me, but I thought it might be confusing for her to see me for 2 hours every day on his weeks.
I appreciate your advise. It seems like you have been through a good trial and error process and I am just starting.
Posted on 4/24/15 at 2:54 pm to jsquardjj
Yes, ok. So if he is taking her every weekend, he wants more. He cant because he is jammed and has to make money.
You just need to be understanding and cool until he can get help and change situation.
Yes ive done all the things yall are doing.
Kid eventually needs split time equally between you. Took me about 5 months to do that. My wife at time understood. That made all the difference.
We are all real tight now. And my daughter is very happy. But you cant sustain a thing where dad has kid every weekend. Its both not enough, to frequent a change, and bad for him and kid and you. Your kid needs some weekends with you too where you just relax or go to parades or go to pool or whatever.
I hear ya. Hang in and be wise.
Eta: just treat eAch other well and respect each other and never say anything bad about other parent. You will find that this is the truth to live and that all will work out. And your kid will be great. Its very difficult and at times you will have to be very wise and so will he. But it sounds like yall have good vibe.
You just need to be understanding and cool until he can get help and change situation.
Yes ive done all the things yall are doing.
Kid eventually needs split time equally between you. Took me about 5 months to do that. My wife at time understood. That made all the difference.
We are all real tight now. And my daughter is very happy. But you cant sustain a thing where dad has kid every weekend. Its both not enough, to frequent a change, and bad for him and kid and you. Your kid needs some weekends with you too where you just relax or go to parades or go to pool or whatever.
I hear ya. Hang in and be wise.
Eta: just treat eAch other well and respect each other and never say anything bad about other parent. You will find that this is the truth to live and that all will work out. And your kid will be great. Its very difficult and at times you will have to be very wise and so will he. But it sounds like yall have good vibe.
This post was edited on 4/24/15 at 3:04 pm
Posted on 4/24/15 at 3:24 pm to magildachunks
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Why don't you get some hobbies and quit basing your life completely around a kid.
You are either not a parent or a terrible one
Posted on 4/24/15 at 4:00 pm to shawnlsu
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This post was edited on 4/24/15 at 6:12 pm
Posted on 4/24/15 at 4:06 pm to jsquardjj
You have it better than most fathers. Be thankful. Appreciate the fact that your ex isn't a more difficult. Most fathers (when everything is looked as being equal in the household and wat of life) get every other weekend and Wednesday evenings for a few hours. Sure they may also get a week or 2 in the summer and some extra time around holidays but even then it normally has to coincide with the mothers life , plans , vacation , etc. I'm not saying it doesn't suck. It sucks for any parent to not be able to put their child to sleep each night , wake then each morning , have dinner daily at the table , help with with homework , etc . but I promise you , you have it better than most.
Posted on 4/24/15 at 4:07 pm to NashBamaFan
not the fatha
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