re: Selfish, lazy, pig of a sister-in-law that uses her parents!

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Do you tell your sister-in-law that she she needs to back off your father in law and mother-in-law?

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My in-laws are jerks, so I wouldn't bother concerning myself with it.

Assuming yours don't suck, let your spouse handle it.

It's your In-laws fault... They enabled that shite...

They need to stop it...

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So what if you're sister en-law fills intitled? Odds are, you're en-laws are the ones letting it happen. They go away four weeks at a time because of there intitled daughter? Please. Your en-laws love filling needed. Sure, it may be frustrating, but it makes them fill good. That makes you're en-laws inablers. Face it, their just going two eat away at any enheritance money you & you're wife wood git win they dyed.

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The sister-in-law is gonna get everything because her parents will feel like they need it more. Being the nice guy and being responsible will only leave you left out the will so you need to get your hands dirty.

Btw give us a pic of your sister-in-law to determine the best course of action moving forward.

OP, take the advice others have given and keep your nose clean.

Provide just enough snide remarks to your wife that she sides with you without being offensive. Take advantage of each and every chance to butter your MIL up so much you're now the favorite. Start sentences with such words as "I wish" and "I hope" with her... Over-Hug drop in the occasional "I cannot thank you enough...".

You are in rare territory. Get to work.

Ask when the house is supposed to be finished. Offer them the name of a good attorney since two years is beyond realistic.

Ask to see the mythical house so you can better gauge what kind of house warming gift is appropriate, and when you should purchase it.

Understand that the mooches are cheating you, your wife, and your kids of building a relationship with your in laws. It is like hitting on an OT 8 with her troll friend answering for her and blocking you.

If all else fails you need to get a wingman to help.

Mow their lawn. Bring the two in laws weekend breakfast. Take dad fishing. Take mom for coffee. When the deadbeats try to come, tell them that you are planning a big get together for all but for now, you need to spend time alone with mom, dad or mom and dad. Keep them out long enough to where piggy has to prepare some meals. Tell Bro in law that you will have dad out all day so he will need to cut the grass.

You can play them like a fiddle and still send a message at every opportunity that they are not welcome to have their time and yours with your in laws.

Good luck.

Just checking back on this thread, but Hangit nailed it!!! That is the way to go.

Stay out of it.