re: Parents, do you spank your kids?

I think everyone should spank their kids. I think that there is a time and place for everything. Like in the real world when they become adults, if they talk or treat another adult bad enough, then the other adult might physical attack them. By spanking them, you are teaching them real world consequences to them that is tangible to them. Again, you probably won't have to spank them if ever but if they cross certain lines then I think a spanking is warranted.

I know growing up with all my cousins around at one time (we were are pretty similar in age and boys) at my grandmas we would get our asses whooped about every day probably, or at least threatened too. This was probably around 5-8 or so as we were constantly pushing our boundaries and just goofing off as bored arse kids in the summer time.

I spanked my eldest a few times but it didn't improve the behavior so I moved on to other things. I don't have anything against it but it doesn't work for every kid so you have to find what does.

Yes I do know my children better than a study that can’t take into account a vast number of relevant variables.

the thing is, we know more science behind it now. it's detrimental. but people will argue with the science of it I suppose.

My dad would paddle my arse on the regular as a kid and I turned out just fine.

When I do have kids, yes I will spank them I’m sure. frick all that you need to see your child’s psychology bullshite. A kid knows a belt from not a belt

I mix it up. I haven't spanked my 3YO in probably a year but he knows damn well what it means to lose a toy or tablet these days.

He's getting defiant at bedtime. Bedtime usually consists of brushing/washing the hands and face, followed by about 20-30 minutes of quiet reading time in bed with Dad or Mom before lights out. The other night he was being a colossal brat and I warned him twice that he would go "straight to bed" if he didn't comply.

I'd threatened this before but this was the first time I ever actually carried it out. Without saying a word I picked him up, carried him to his room, put him in bed, walked out and shut the door. He got up crying and came to open the door, but I held the knob shut for about 90 seconds.

He was absolutely terrified. His cries were awful. Not fun for anyone. I've waffled on it a bit in the days since, but in hindsight I probably held the door shut for about 30 seconds longer than I should have. But he's been very quick to respond to my commands when I've threatened it again.

So I think I got the point across. But not my proudest moment. But it worked! But I'm not happy that I did it. But it was effective... but but but.

Parenting is weird.