re: Married couples with an &quot;arrangement&quot;

Posted by mdomingue

Lafayette, LA

Member since Nov 2010

30804 posts

Posted on 11/6/23 at 6:16 pm to SuperSaint

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Good for you Peej, you're a stand-up guy, you truly love your wife, honor your vows and commitment. You have earned my respect brother.
did he tell you about the time he banged his sister in law in her shitter bent over the table next to the thanksgiving turkey?

Well, no, that's the first I hear of that one.

Posted by johnnyrocket

Ghetto once known as Baton Rouge

Member since Apr 2013

9790 posts

Posted on 11/6/23 at 6:57 pm to Will Cover

It’s been pretty regular.
Except right when we had the kids.
Month or so after heck sleep was more valuable than sex.

I was shot and had surgery.
Woke up in ICU 3 am and my stuff was still good to go.
Then the pain medicine wore off from the abdomen survey.

Then had cancer surgey & chemo.
Slowed things down.

Wife had a surgery.
Those things slow you down.

Right now I am in a good stretch take it while you can.

Posted by Dickaroos

Nunya

Member since Feb 2013

485 posts

Posted on 11/6/23 at 8:35 pm to Will Cover

Idk but I want to know how to get one of these arrangements

Posted by olgoi khorkhoi

priapism survivor

Member since May 2011

14897 posts

Posted on 11/6/23 at 9:06 pm to JAMAC2001

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my wife and I do the deed on average every other day.

Us too. So we're on the same page, "the deed" is me quietly jerking it into a sock while she sleeps.

Posted by Dickaroos

Nunya

Member since Feb 2013

485 posts

Posted on 11/6/23 at 10:56 pm to olgoi khorkhoi

Lol im in the same boat

Posted by grizzlylongcut

Member since Sep 2021

9553 posts

Posted on 11/7/23 at 7:05 am to StringedInstruments

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There was an interesting Peter Attia podcast episode with a doctor who specializes in women’s sexual health. Women experience sex differently than men. Men tend to be fairly linear in that arousal leads to desire. Also, men tend to always be in a heightened state of desire for sex, but even if they aren’t, it only takes a bit of arousal for them to want it. Women can get aroused for sex, but they have much more difficult time desiring it. This is why many men express frustration towards their wives because their wives never want to have sex, but when they do, the sex is good. As you said, who doesn’t like to nut? Well, apparently women do but they don’t really want to. Getting them into a state of desire requires a lot more effort and more of a coddled lifestyle to minimize stress. It also requires more emotional connection over a period of time for there to be a sustained, healthy sex life (desire). At least, that’s how the doctor explained it.

Only women could think that makes any sense at all.

Posted by BoogaBear

Member since Jul 2013

5611 posts

Posted on 11/7/23 at 7:24 am to johnnyrocket

Yeah we used to be 3-4 times a week.

We moved, kids changed schools, changed sports leagues (which city), changed jobs, started daycare, wife went back to work.

It slowed down to 4-5 a month. Wife is aware of it, I make sure to do my part and help out with kids, laundry, household tasks, flirt with her even though I know it's not going down.

Life ebs and flows, don't be bitter at your partner when there is a slow down.

Posted by TDTOM

Member since Jan 2021

14837 posts

Posted on 11/7/23 at 7:28 am to mdomingue

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did he tell you about the time he banged his sister in law in her shitter bent over the table next to the thanksgiving turkey?

Holy shite. Between that and chubbies giving a blowjob to a hobo that subsequently stole her bike, I have some reading and catching up to do.

Posted by olgoi khorkhoi

priapism survivor

Member since May 2011

14897 posts

Posted on 11/7/23 at 9:04 am to grizzlylongcut

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Only women could think that makes any sense at all.

It makes sense. Picture wanting to have sex as a light bulb. Men typically have a dimmer switch and the light is always on to some degree. Seeing something they perceive as sexy or being physically close to someone they are atteacted to turns the dimmer switch up and the light gets brighter. Many women (I admit I only partially understand the ones I've been with) operate in default with that bulb off, so they aren't desiring sex until something hits the switch. The switch isn't as predictable as it is with men. It's usually triggered by less visual/physical things and more by emotional needs being met..ie letting them know you are thinking of them and appreciate them.

But some women are different due to nature (the whore gene) or nurture (daddy issues) and use sex to get attention instead of the other way around.

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Posted by 777Tiger

Member since Mar 2011

73856 posts

Posted on 11/7/23 at 9:05 am to olgoi khorkhoi

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It makes sense. Picture wanting to have sex as a light bulb. Men typically have a dimmer switch and the light is always on to some degree. Seeing something they perceive as sexy or being physically close to someone they are atteacted to turns the dimmer switch up and the light gets brighter. Many women (I admit I only partially understand the ones I've been with) operate in default with that bulb off, so they aren't desiring sex until something hits the switch. The switch isn't as predictable as it is with men. It's usually triggered by less visual/physical things and more by emotional needs being met..ie letting them know you are thinking of them and appreciate them.

But some women are different due to nature (the whore gene) or nurture (daddy issues) and use sex to get attention instead of the other way around.

that's a lot of words to admit you have no game, baw, sorry