re: Life changes quick

Will, I literally have no clue what I wanna do. Some days I’m like frick that bitch and then there are days that I feel like I would give it another very cautious shot with her. I haven’t forgiven what she did but I’m at peace with it because I knew early on and just needed to confirm it. The woman that I’ve been dealing with since June 7th is a completely different person than she was in let’s say just March. Can’t lie up until last Tuesday I’ve actually remained pretty calm in dealing with her, normally our phone conversations end up in her crying accusing me of using the kids against her, I haven’t said a bad word about the woman in front of them but I did tell my oldest 2 about the affair

The right moves so far.... when my first wife thought it was best to leave, she didn’t say a word and hid my two kids away from me for over a year...... talk about a crushing blow. Not really about her leaving but you don’t hide the kids away from their father for over a year...... that’s just plain hatred for the kids. She is and always will be a total loser in life.

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She has a window of opportunity to wreck your credit. Don’t let her.

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Just curious about this step, in particular “don’t let her”. Should I try hitting her?

I’d agree, this needs to be required reading, from my personal experience I’d put #10 as #2 but other than that it’s a good list. My reason, based on my past, is that if you don’t file for legal separation, your wife or husband whichever the case, can run up purchases on credit cards, drain joint bank accounts and acquire loans which means you will be legally responsible for half the debt, once a legal separation is filed, this stops. This can be financially disastrous regardless of whether the couple goes through with a divorce or works things out and stay together.

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I haven’t forgiven what she did but I’m at peace with it

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You need to forgive her(not forget it)..... not for her but for yourself.

You don't necessarily have to even tell her you forgive her. But you need to forgive her in your heart. So that you can truly move on and live your best life. Holding on to the anger and bitterness over their betrayal will only weigh you down more in the long run.

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Get some new pussy and buy a 4Runner

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I walk with a limp cuz my nuts heavy...

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I’m actually the one who encourages them to call her, go spend time with her and all that such. They don’t like being around her too much anymore cause she doesn’t spend the quality time with them always on her phone, hiding the screen or running outside.

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My parents were like oil and water and should have never been married to begin with. But there was infidelity and we knew about it as kids.

I rarely spoke to my mother for nearly a decade. It can be tough on the kids. You've got to do what's best for them and you.

No offense, but it sounds like your wife has checked out. That's on her, not you. If she's running around hiding her phone and stuff like that she's still got something going on with someone.

Wow. Online????? Didn’t I meet your ex at a tailgate???????

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Truth. I'm 42, no kids, never been married, do well for myself, and if i get married a prenup is going to absolutely be a condition of that marriage.

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We are the same age but I've been with my wife for 16 years so being single is kind of a faint memory at this point. Neither of us had shite when we got married so a prenup never came up

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Unless she’s got money. Then you won’t even bring up that word

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Of course