re: Kids in their 20's, what is the biggest mistake your parents made with you

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Kids are not stamped out like a cookie, they are all different and thus need to be handled in different ways.

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Thanks for the heads up. I just assumed that my kids had the same personality as any other kid.

I had a pretty sheltered childhood, but I don't blame my parents for that it was more because of where I was raised. I lost my shite the first year I was at LSU because I didn't know how to handle all these options before me.

My children are being raised in the same town I was raised in but we try to take them to as much stuff as we can in larger cities in hopes they don't go as culture shock crazy as I did.

I don't think culture shock matters as much as just letting them grow up without a parent hawking over them at all times.

Had a talk with my uncle not long ago because his daughter is going to college in a few years. He is worried about her going to LSU and getting out of control. I told him, from my experience, the girls who's parents were really controlling were more often than not the ones sleeping around and all kinds of other shite.

Be a good parent but draw a line of being some controlling force in their life.

This has been an interesting thread. Since my wife and I found out we were having a baby boy and subsequently having him in December, I've been spending a lot of time thinking about my dad and I's relationship growing up. His dad was not involved in his life much at all. Can't remember his dad telling him he loved him, etc. Just the times, I guess. That's why it's hard for me to fault him for not being overly affectionate - he didn't know how. I'm the opposite, though & it's become a running joke that I will hug on him and crawl in his lap when he's on his recliner. I'm 27 and overweight

Honestly, we are about as close as we can be now. I just wish we did more stuff when I was growing up. He showed me how to be a man in a sense. He was always there for his parents, worked hard & provided us with a comfortable life, came to most ball games, etc. He didn't show me how to do stuff around the house/work on my vehicle and now that I have my own, I stay up at night trying to figure out how to do simple things so I can show my son.