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re: Is this a red flag? ie: dating and dealing with girl's mom
Posted on 3/2/14 at 4:58 pm to lsuwontonwrap
Posted on 3/2/14 at 4:58 pm to lsuwontonwrap
I don't know about all that other stuff, but the next time Moms pops in unannounced you need to stroll nonchalantly out of the bedroom with a raging boner. That will either cure her of the drop-ins or open up some interesting possibilities! 
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Posted on 3/2/14 at 4:59 pm to MikeBRLA
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It's very disrespectful to drop in to ones house uninvited. The mom doesn't respect her daughter as adult.
Yep. It's not as if I exactly invite my parents over, but they typically have the common courtesy of calling in advance or letting me know the day before so I'm not in my boxers, I don't have friends over, or that I don't have any prior plans.
Sorry, but its just insane for me that a parent walks in uninvited into their 28 year old daughters house at 8:00 in the morning on a Saturday. Hell, it's considered impolite to even call someone on a weekday before 9:00, nevertheless to walk into their house an hour earlier on a weekend.
There was only one reason she was there, and it was to ambush her daughter to see if she was fricking him and allowed him to stay over. There was no other meaning to that trip. To the OP, you better prepare yourself, since she's going to be micromanaging your life and stopping in even earlier on weekdays to micromanage your kids with this chick.
Posted on 3/2/14 at 4:59 pm to OMLandshark
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She's TWENTY EIGHT YEARS OLD. You act as if she's 18 still living off of her parents.
And you act as if that goes away when you reach 21, the reasoning of youth.
You also act like we don't live in the world we live in, and if BR for instance isn't among the capitals for abductions, murder, rape, etc, etc. the place is a pit, and yeah, cause for concern when it comes to a single woman living all by herself.
Posted on 3/2/14 at 5:01 pm to Mike da Tigah
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Yeah, it's quite natural for someone who loves someone else to be very concerned for them, and especially when they see something that might very well present a real danger to them and that happiness long term.
Yeah, that's quite natural for a mother.
I always thought my mother was fairly controlling, but no, you take the cake if you think this is normal behavior from a mother. I couldn't imagine my mother doing this.
Posted on 3/2/14 at 5:03 pm to OMLandshark
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I always thought my mother was fairly controlling
So, this is a projection for you?
Posted on 3/2/14 at 5:05 pm to Mike da Tigah
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OK, let's say it's not. We still have a single female living alone and, maybe in a sketchy neighborhood, or maybe not. Maybe she has issues nobody knows about but mom. Maybe naive and quite easily manipulated. Maybe she made bad choices in the past.
Yes, but does this need to be resolved at 8:00 in the morning on a Saturday? Is some shite going to gloriously hit the fan between 8:00 and 11:00? Even if I had the biggest binger of my life and my parents know about it, I still don't want them contacting me on Saturday before 11:00.
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Every one of these are very rational reasons for a mom to check on her daughter who lives alone. This is not out of the norm here. To the contrary, it's quite understandable, especially in the times we live and where we live. The world is full of predators, and that's no stretch. It's the world we live in today. It's a very real concern.
Go look at the actual stats, and you'll see that we're as safe as society has ever been. This is just a bullshite excuse for overbearing parents like yourself to still control their children's lives.
Posted on 3/2/14 at 5:06 pm to Mike da Tigah
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You also act like we don't live in the world we live in, and if BR for instance isn't among the capitals for abductions, murder, rape, etc, etc. the place is a pit, and yeah, cause for concern when it comes to a single woman living all by herself.
If only there was a way to check in on someone without having to pop in unannounced. Perhaps we should invent such a communication device.
You've already played the safety card and it's been addressed. Keep playing it if you want though and I'll keep proving it an invalid argument.
Posted on 3/2/14 at 5:09 pm to MikeBRLA
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Checking in doesn't mean coming over unannounced. Checking in would be a phone call asking if everything is ok bc she hadn't heard from her daughter in an unusually long period of time. Your failure to see the difference is clear by your posts in this thread.
Yeah, granted I'd still be a bit annoyed if my parents called me at 8:00 on a Saturday, but I wouldn't be pissed by my parents calling me up making sure I got back safely. If they come over unannounced, then that's an invasion of my privacy and proves that they are nosey, don't trust me, and want to control everything I do. If you're that much of an overly worried and overbearing parent, why wouldn't a call suffice. I'll wait for your response Mike Da Tiger.
This post was edited on 3/2/14 at 5:15 pm
Posted on 3/2/14 at 5:11 pm to Mike da Tigah
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Seeing a marriage as a "what do I get out of it" grab bag, and fuzzy feeling rather than a commitment you live up to ends in divorce,
You're way to black and white, bruh. Bc acknowledging a very important factor of compatibility or lack of =\= "what do I get out of it."
If I would use your hyperbolic reasoning, I'd combat it with "so you're saying you should marry your first GF despite if yall are a good couple... Just work through the things you don't like And deal"...
Being single is the time to be picky. You marry a person that you love and can look past the problems. You don't look past the problems just to be married and find love.
This post was edited on 3/2/14 at 5:13 pm
Posted on 3/2/14 at 5:14 pm to Mike da Tigah
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You also act like we don't live in the world we live in, and if BR for instance isn't among the capitals for abductions, murder, rape, etc, etc. the place is a pit, and yeah, cause for concern when it comes to a single woman living all by herself.
Phone Call. Why doesn't a phone call work? Even with the phone call, would you call your daughter every single Saturday morning at 8:00 for the rest of her life until she's married? Think about when you were their age (or similar pre-marriage age). I bet you'd love for your parents to do that with you or your girlfriend. Wouldn't build up resentment, trust, or anger issues with the kid at all.
Posted on 3/2/14 at 5:15 pm to OMLandshark
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Yeah, granted I'd still be a bit annoyed if my parents called me at 8:00 on a Saturday, but I wouldn't be pissed by parents calling me up making sure I got back safely. If they come over unanounced, then that's an invasion of my privacy and proves that they are nosey, don't trust me, and want to control everything I do.
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Posted on 3/2/14 at 5:15 pm to OMLandshark
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Yeah, granted I'd still be a bit annoyed if my parents called me at 8:00 on a Saturday, but I wouldn't be pissed by parents calling me up making sure I got back safely. If they come over unanounced, then that's an invasion of my privacy and proves that they are nosey, don't trust me, and want to control everything I do. If you're that much of an overly worried and overbearing parent, why wouldn't a call suffice. I'll wait for your response Mike Da Tiger.
My response is this. Hard dicks are everywhere. You only have one mom, and one daughter, and there are zero guarantees either will be there tomorrow, another piece of wisdom that comes with age and realizing just how very temporal this life is for everyone. If you put an uncommitted relationship above a mother who actually took the time to come see how you are, at 8 am or 12 PM, it matters not, you should be grateful as frick, because let me say this, I have a shite ton of friends who would give anything for just one minute to talk with their mothers or daughters regardless of the time. They would do just about anything for it. You take that for granted, and you'll regret the ever loving shite out of it. Bank on that.
I think you're probably too young to understand this, but one day you will.
This post was edited on 3/2/14 at 5:17 pm
Posted on 3/2/14 at 5:16 pm to Mike da Tigah
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So, this is a projection for you?
No. This thread is making me thankful that she wasn't. She doesn't ask questions she doesn't want the answers to or is overly nosey about them either.
Posted on 3/2/14 at 5:20 pm to OMLandshark
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No. This thread is making me thankful that she wasn't. She doesn't ask questions she doesn't want the answers to or is overly nosey about them either.
You're also a guy, right? It's different, a lot different.
Posted on 3/2/14 at 5:22 pm to Mike da Tigah
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I think you're probably too young to understand this, but one day you will.
I doubt it. Neither do my parents. They let me live my life as I see fit, and when I need their advice and help, they give it to me. They love me, respect me, and give me space. This isn't just afraid of losing your loved ones, this is control. 8:00 calls would drive any person I know in their 20s insane and lead to them resenting their parents. How about instead you stop trying to control your 20 something year old kids lives and let them do their own thing. The chances of them being alive at 8:00 tomorrow morning are pretty much equal to how they would be at 1:00 that afternoon.
Why don't you wait until a time that is convenient for them and yourself? It actually seems like you need a waking up from someone like me who is in their mid-20s and understands how this is. Fortunately, my parents figured this out quickly. You need to let your kids go and let them do their own thing. Trust me, if I had to bet, they'll be alive this time next week.
Posted on 3/2/14 at 5:23 pm to Mike da Tigah
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My response is this. Hard dicks are everywhere. You only have one mom, and one daughter, and there are zero guarantees either will be there tomorrow, another piece of wisdom that comes with age and realizing just how very temporal this life is for everyone. If you put an uncommitted relationship above a mother who actually took the time to come see how you are, at 8 am or 12 PM, it matters not, you should be grateful as frick, because let me say this, I have a shite ton of friends who would give anything for just one minute to talk with their mothers or daughters regardless of the time. They would do just about anything for it. You take that for granted, and you'll regret the ever loving shite out of it. Bank on that.
Using that "logic" the daughter should still live at home and spend every moment w her mom.
Have you noticed that nobody is defending your stance or views on this topic? There is a reason for that.
Posted on 3/2/14 at 5:26 pm to Mike da Tigah
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You're also a guy, right? It's different, a lot different.
But I also have a sister, and I know how they treat her. High school it was a completely different ballgame to where I was allowed to have a later curfew and whatnot than she ever had., When she was straight out of college they were willing to shell out a few extra bucks on her apartment to make sure she was in a safe and nice part of town. Now she makes her own living on her own dime, and the way we're treated now isn't all that different. It seems as if we're now on a level playing field. If the girl was 23 or 24, maybe, but 28, she should be making her own way in the world.
Posted on 3/2/14 at 5:26 pm to MikeBRLA
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Using that "logic" the daughter should still live at home and spend every moment w her mom.
That's not even remotely close to a good argument to what I presented, and what many people regret for the rest of their days after their mother, father, or sibling passes, rather the missed opportunities.
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Have you noticed that nobody is defending your stance or views on this topic? There is a reason for that.
Uhhhn yeah, it's the OT, and I don't formulate stances based on winning popularity points, but rather being right.
Posted on 3/2/14 at 5:26 pm to Mike da Tigah
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Hard dicks are everywhere
You pull double standards like a chick, man. You don't want guys treating your baby girl like a piece of arse while you think every dude is a swinging dick. I've seen you mention comments to the extent of "the mom will be around much longer than some swinging dick" or that the OP is mad bc he isn't getting pussy... Is that how you treat your wife? Is that how your dad treated your mom? Bc a guy can be offended about an overbearing mother without it being about sex. The OP can frick this chick at his house. That's not his problem. His problem is that he wants a relationship (beyond sex) and the mother is butting in too much. If he was treating her like a piece of arse then he'd be okay with only having to see her when she comes over to frick.
Posted on 3/2/14 at 5:27 pm to Mike da Tigah
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Mike da Tigah
Are you the father of the OP's 28 year-old girlfriend? You are very defensive of her overbearing mother.
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