re: I'm Going To Break A Girl's Heart Tonight

Do you just pull it out of your arse and then laugh at your creativity? I totally would make it as ridiculous as possible if I were you.

Businesses can request a college grad for an entry level position paying low wages because they know they can likely fill it. And a college grad is likely to increase the odds of getting someone literate and with basic computer skills.

The real issue is too many people going to college for basically worthless degrees.

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The real issue is too many people going to college for basically worthless degrees.

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This is true.

It's a lose-lose. I mean, I wish like hell I could have gone to school to be a doctor or engineer, but I don't possess that skill set. I flat out just CAN'T make the grades or do the thinking required for those jobs. I am not math/science oriented. I can read and write all day long.

So my choices were: Go to college for something I know I have the ability to do.. or don't go to college at all and risk not even being hired for entry level office jobs because there are people with degrees willing to take those jobs.

The only other option I have right now if I can't find a job is to get certified to teach. Which I REALLY have no interest in.

Only teaching I'd be interested in is high school level in a private school with no state regulation bullshite.

I hope you haven't wasted all of your thoughts on the break up and neglected to establish a well thought out bachelor bucket list...
Here, I'll get you started:
Hookers
Blow
Eat a block of cheese
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This is why I'm not a feminist. Well, one of the reasons. Higher education is great and important. But, so many people get a degree because they're "supposed to" or to have an entry level job. Not because they followed their passion. I have a friend who got her masters in speech pathology. 5 minutes after graduation, she got married. And 5 minutes after that, she was pregnant. She is now a stay at home mom and loving it. Her husband loves that she stays home with the kids and doesn't want her to work, but he didn't want to marry her until she finished her education. Which she has done nothing with and has no plans to in the foreseeable future. What is wrong with wanting to be a mom and wife? Feminism put it out there that it's not acceptable to have those things as goals. And now men agree, whereas they didn't use to. So we have a plethora of highly educated stay at home moms. What's the point in the degrees if that's not what you want?

Yeah, most of us are going to just have to bank on working our way up at this point. If you're a bright person and hard worker, you'll get it eventually. A lot of young people don't stay at jobs very long.

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What is wrong with wanting to be a mom and wife? Feminism put it out there that it's not acceptable to have those things as goals

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No. That is not at all what feminism promotes. It promotes not denying people from getting an education and working if that is what they CHOOSE.

These misconceptions about feminism (admittedly stemmed from the bad eggs in the feminist community) are why feminism has a bad name.

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What's the point in the degrees if that's not what you want?

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Maybe they do want them.

My SO has brought up the idea of me just working part time or volunteering or whatever later because of the way his work schedule will be. I could go either way. I wouldn't leave a job I love for that, but I understand how it could be detrimental if his schedule is week on, week off.. and I work 9-5 when I don't even need to.

But on the flip side, what if we split? A degree is going to help me out in some way much more than being someone who hasn't worked since I was 18.

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I actually had someone tell me that last night. Maybe all I know about feminism is the angry man haters. But, when they are the most vocal of the group (as evidenced by the fact that even women don't know that's not what feminism is) the dynamic changes and hurts women as a whole

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Well.

Do you feel that all Christians suck?

... Because, let's be real, their most vocal people absolutely suck.

I just remind myself they're the bad eggs. I wish people would do that with feminism too. It is a broad term that people twist to fit their particular stances, and that can be dangerous.

Aziz Ansari said it best:

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"If you look up feminist in the dictionary, it just means someone who believes men and women have equal rights. And I think everyone here believes men and women have equal rights. But I think the reason people don’t clap is that the word is so weirdly used in our culture. Now, people think feminist means, like, some woman is gonna start yelling at them. I feel like if you do believe that men and women have equal rights, if someone asks if you’re a feminist, you have to say yes, because that is how words work. You can't be like, 'Oh, yeah, I'm a doctor that primarily does diseases of the skin.' 'Oh, so you're a dermatologist?' 'Oh no, that's way too aggressive of a word. No, no, not at all, not at all."

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What's the point in the degrees if that's not what you want?

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you go to school to meet the guy you'll marry so you can stay home

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What a waste of time, money, and effort if that is not what she wanted. Men still hold all the cards in that regard. If you want a family, finish 2 degrees.

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Shows commitment, plus she will have something to fall back on if/when we split. That way she can't blame me when her life is wrecked.

Kind of threw a kink in my plans when she graduated earlier than I expected. Now I may actually have to get her pregnant.