re: Christmas step parenting Q... am i wrong?

Step parent here.

You were 1000% in the wrong here. Its not because of what you said but how she took what you said. She thought you ment you didnt want to watch the kids be happy. So what if the ex was with them. Watch the videos and dont be a bitch about it. You look jealous now. When all you had to do was watch 5 minutes of videos. Big deal. I cant believe you think you have done no wrong here. You're missing the point COMPLETELY. Now you aint getting any pussy for weeks. Maybe months. You could've scored major brownie points here and you blew it. Rule number 1 in step parenting, the kids should always be numero uno. That makes mom happy. And good things happen when momma is happy.

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If my wife asks me to do something or look at something and it will only take a minute then I will happily do it or look at it rather than fight for half a morning. The other day I watched a video of baby sheep in sweaters followed by a picture of a baby squirrel.

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She thought you ment you didnt want to watch the kids be happy.

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but I told her I was glad they were having a good time - and meant it.

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You look jealous now.

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Of what exactly?

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Now you aint getting any pussy for weeks

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For the record, we 'made up' last night

But I still was curious on what others thought about the situation.

And for the record #2 - I'm not disagreeing with your point, that I should have handled it differently, just don't understand some of the logic.

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You were 1000% in the wrong here. Its not because of what you said but how she took what you said

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you say he is 1000% wrong due to something he has no control over?

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You're missing the point COMPLETELY. Now you aint getting any pussy for weeks. Maybe months. You could've scored major brownie points here and you blew it.

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How do you guys live being so terrified of your wives... Christ.

Uh i get it all the time. Im not scared of shite. Im speaking for him.

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as to do with you thinking of yourself

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I absolutely was thinking of myself - no debate there - but didn't realize ME not watching would upset HER.

OP, you probably kinda also wished the 2 kids were with ya'll. I can see how it can piss you off somewhat and make you not feel right about seeing them like that. Many of the posters have overblown how bad it is what you did. Like I said, I'd have watched and been glad they are happy but I do remember when my 2 step daughters were gone, back when they didn't have a choice in the matter, hating the fact that they weren't with us on Christmas. Now they are older and have a choice and are always with us. I mean you are glad they are happy, but it still sucks they aren't with you.

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For the record, we 'made up' last night

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Are you new to women? Guaranteed that shite will be at the forefront of her mind for months until such time that it is tagged, filed, and stored for use at a later date.

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but didn't realize ME not watching would upset HER.

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It's not complicated. She cares about her kids and she cares about you. She wanted to share a moment of her kids having fun on Christmas with you. You shunning that was hurtful to her.

It's pretty simple. Learn from this incident

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Am i wrong?

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Yes, you're very wrong.


If you've dated her for a year and this is serious, you are a StepDad and those kids better be pretty darn important to you. She is so happy that her kids are happy and wants to share that with you, and all you can think about is that her Ex is in the video?

That's a really bad look on your part.




I know we usually post these types of scenarios and many just say "RUN!" from the chick, but for me, this should be a HUGE red flag for the girl on your part. Something so innocent as her wanting to share her kid' happiness with you, you managed to turn that into a big, huge fight. HUGE red flag IMO.