re: Anyone else had this problem after first child born?

Yes actuslly. That was 5 years ago. Not much better.

Will advise more tomorrow, watching game

This is how infidelity starts

Maybe she's just tired? I remember being so freaking tired all the time. It's exhausting being the sole source of entertainment for a curious and mobile 17 month old. In some ways, 2 children are easier than 1. It's will get easier as your child gets older. Time off helps. Book her a 2 night stay at a spa by herself. 2 nights without having to wake up, clean or even talk to anyone is the best therapy.