re: Another heartbreak, I'm just done with dating...

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I have read your 4 messages fml I am already bored. 1 paragraph replies in future baw

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emails and texts are medisums to get a woman to meet you in person nothing more. you can't frick a woman through a text. you can't make a woman more interested in you via text oremail than she already is, but you can ruin the spark by reveling too much about yourself.

texts / emails should all have the same goal, to get her in your presence. by you going on and on like you are all you are doing is showing that you don't hgave a life and you have nothing better to do than to email her, she doesn't give a shite what you say in the email / text the fact that you got that much time tells her you aren't someone that women are chasing after

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and stop reading her emails / texts. block her number. it's over.

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Solid advice there.


OP...that is just how online dating goes. I can remember getting all excited about some guys and it didn't pan out. And the guys I wasn't that thrilled over(no chemistry and totally misrepresented themselves with their pics) wouldn't leave me alone.

Don't give up though. Chalk it up as a learning experience that will make you that much more prepared for when Ms. Right does come along


Also...how come yall didn't chat any on the phone(or did you?)

Her response to my message:

I also feel like (deleted) has been under construction for all eternity, lol But I love how you can see the (deleted) now when you are driving by- just a little taste of what’s to come! I will be doing a transatlantic cruise that makes stops in the Azores, two stops in England, the Netherlands, and ends in Copenhagen, Denmark. The cruise is going to be on (deleted).

Oh yes, nerdy is must for me :) Harry Potter was actually the topic of my college dissertation! I also haven’t read the newest one, I am just too afraid it will ruin my love for the universe so I keep putting it off. I also love Star Wars and Star Trek as well. There isn’t a whole lot of fantasy and sci-fi that I won’t at least attempt to enjoy. I haven’t seen it yet but my roommate wants to go so I will probably check it out, I never watched the TV show but I have no problem checking out movies that are based on shows or books I haven’t read.

I do not hate sports, the only issue I have with sports is the super fans who don’t like me simply for the fact that I am from (deleted), despite my not rooting for any of the teams there. And as I said, I am always excited to have the opportunity to learn something new and sports is an area that I have lacked in for far too long. My jeopardy score could use some help! I have watched bits and pieces of games on TV through the years, I also went to basketball and football games as a kid for school teams. Baseball is the one I have the least amount of interest in, I had to sit through a torturously long game in college for a class and I still haven’t recovered from the boredom!

You would not believe the amount of messages I have received from guys that are somewhere along the lines of, “hey baby”, “hey gorgeous”, “love your smile”, “talk to me baby”, “I have something for you” etc etc. It is very discouraging and has made me reconsider online dating altogether, but I keep hoping to meet someone who genuinely wants to meet someone to have a future with. So many profiles with no info and like you said, what do I do with that? Anyways!

I am glad I could share some of my well-earned cruise knowledge with you! Plenty more where that came from! I’m dying to do the (deleted) cruise, I wish I had just done it with them in the first place but the people I was with didn’t want to pay the price. They regretted it. It sounds like you’ve done quite a few fun domestic trips. I have visited a few of the places you have, but I have not made it to Oregon and I am DYING to go! It looks like such an amazing place and I hope to get out there sometime soon.

All the iPhone have had decent camera, but yes the 7plus is a huge leap in quality. I am super happy with it and have been impressed with some of the shots I have managed to catch, I hope I get to share some with you at some point. I have not made it out to (deleted) but I have heard it is beautiful. I would love to see manatees in the wild, I have managed to see dolphins, whales and other sea creatures in the wild, but never manatees, so I it remains on the list!

My wrist has been a lifelong challenge it seems, haha. I am honestly so used to dealing with it that it’s not as much of a bother as you would think. The only issue is because I have compensated with my left hand for so long I have started to show similar symptoms in that hand as well. Thankfully, it is early enough that the shots should be enough to handle the problem.

Oh goodness! That is a horrifying welcome to (deleted) I have definitely had my share of close calls through the last 7 years, but luckily I am a true (deleted) driver and managed to maneuver myself to safety. Glad you escaped unscathed! Speed limits, road signs and traffic signals seem to be more like guidelines to some of the people who drive here. I actually got flipped off by a girl today because she blew through a stop sign and I honked at her because I had to slam on my breaks…she flipped ME off! I couldn’t believe it.

I have always lived in (deleted). First in an apartment, then in a house for 4+ years and now I am back in an apartment. I love it here and just don’t see any reason to look outside of this area. How about you?

I think it’s important to not just see as much of the world as possible, but also to see as much of my “backyard” as possible. There is so much beauty right here in our own country, and lots of (young) history to learn about! You have to go to (deleted) some time. (Deleted) was fantastic, I only had two days there so I just did (deleted), a few restaurants, and I went to a glass blowing place to make my own piece. It was fun! I spent a day in (deleted) and toured around the city for a day, drove to (deleted) to see the zoo, and then drove to (deleted). It was a quick 5 day trip and perfect for me. Solo trips are nice every once in a while to help you recharge your batteries.

I am very close to my family, and my ex having such a poor relationship with his really took its toll as I mentioned. I'm close to both my parents in different ways. My mom is your typical mom who loves to take care of people and always has the best intentions. I love that I can talk to her about anything and that she and my dad will always be there for me no matter what. My dad and I have a relationship based on sarcasm, the love of movies, cooking and nerdy stuff. They are wonderful people. The reunions can be fun but some of my dad’s family is different than how we were raised and it makes it difficult at times. The older cousins like to make trouble haha.

You are always welcome to ask me anything you would like, especially about my divorce. It's important to understand what went wrong so that mistakes aren't repeated. We have been separated since last summer and officially filed for divorce early this year. We are still waiting for the judge to sign the paperwork which is very frustrating. I hope that's not a problem. We are leading very separate lives and there is no chance of us reconciling. We did not have any children. And I completely agree with you on that, I also don't want to date someone with children because I think it makes an already difficult situation even harder.

I get to see my niece and nephew much more often than I used to. They lived in (deleted) for four years and it was miserable not being able to see them often. Now that they are back stateside I see them every few months if I can. They are (deleted) and such amazing kids!

We definitely have a trend going haha. I think we will still find lots to talk about when we meet with this many things in common :) so yes, to put it plainly, I would definitely be interested in going on a date, or just meeting if you prefer a more casual tone. I try to let the man decide what direction he wants things to start from so it's up to you!

I hope to hear back from you! And I'm sorry if there are tons of typos- I didn't have time to proofread!

So you got dumped by someone you've never met in real life? Good god some things the internet has contributed to our society are just awful. Some desperate guys out there literally think they're dating girls that they've never seen in person! Let that sink in for a minute.

There are still 2 more messages I could post here but you get the idea of our messages. It takes a lot of common interests and a connection to have those type of messages.

I honestly hardly ever type that much.

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emails and texts are medisums to get a woman to meet you in person nothing more. you can't frick a woman through a text. you can't make a woman more interested in you via text oremail than she already is, but you can ruin the spark by reveling too much about yourself. 

texts / emails should all have the same goal, to get her in your presence. by you going on and on like you are all you are doing is showing that you don't hgave a life and you have nothing better to do than to email her, she doesn't give a shite what you say in the email / text the fact that you got that much time tells her you aren't someone that women are chasing after

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There are still 2 more messages I could post here but you get the idea of our messages. It takes a lot of common interests and a connection to have those type of messages. 

I honestly hardly ever type that much.

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That isn't connection honestly

Be yourself like yourself next girl up

Y'alls conversation is cordial, but it doesn't read like y'all were really into each other. That's like the conversation you have with your cousin that you haven't seen in 20 years.

Why didn't yall talk on the phone?


Next time, quick emails than suggest chatting on the phone some before meeting.

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11 years! thats quite an age gap! I have a sister who is 5.5 years older than me and she has two children, my niece and nephew that i adore. She recently got divorced last year and it was awful but luckily my family is very close and we all take care of each other. My parens have been married for 44 years and have known each other since they were children. They are an inspiration to me, and i hope to be as lucky in love as they are one day. They, along with my sister and the kids, live in (deleted) as of this past summer, and I have been lucky to make the drive a few times. My extended family that i see is limited to my moms sisters and my two cousins. Every once in awhile we do a reunion in my dads side but we aren't as close.

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this is when she decided you weren't worth it. she realized you are 11 years older than her, and you are single which in her stupid arse mind mean you must suck so the other option was better.
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the point being, she never should have known any of this shite lol.

i mean, what the frick where you possibly going to talk about on the first date? the first day i met my fiancee we stayed up 2 days talking to each other.. now i was high as a kite lol but still the same sentiment remains. you've ran out of newness to talk about. she's figured you out. she got the new relationship smell from you now it's time to move on.

women are the gatekeepers to sex, buy men are the gatekeepers to attention. your attention is your currency and you are making it rain without making her even show you a titty lol.

anything she asks your response should be well let's go on a date and talk about it. that's it. she's driving around, why aren't you driving by my house come over. how old are you? old enough to get in a bar let's go get a drink. you got to be glen gerry glen ross with this shite.