Lifting weights with tennis elbow?

I've only had tennis elbow once, about five years ago and it lasted about 3-6 months. I lifted weights during that time, along with some recovery exercises for tennis elbow that I found online. It sloooowwwwly got better eventually. Since I only play tennis a few times/year, I learned not to overdo it when playing.

I think that I have it again, this time from snow skiing (frequent use of poles between lifts, etc). It's been about five weeks since beginning of strain soreness. For the initial four weeks, I was able to lift weights with minimal discomfort and once again seemed to be sloooowwwly getting better. When I bend my elbow, it hurts if I bend 'too far' (sometimes with a minor pop).

However, last week, felt like I tweaked it doing upright rows (with bar) and dead rows (dumbbells). It swelled up a bit and I've been icing it and resting as much as possible since then. It's much better after five days but I'm itching to lift weights again and think I can do it if I stay away from exercises with too much strain on elbow. Some stuff I've read is that it's better to keep active rather than rest the elbow completely. Anyone have any experience working through this?