re: What brokerages do you use for trading options in retirement accounts?

Given your specific use case scenario I'd reach out to Tradestation or Interactive Brokers and see if they can accommodate your needs for options trading. Interactive Brokers is more targeted to professional options traders and Tradestation has lower fees per contract. Have a look and do some research, only you can really assess what you need and like.

Have you reached out directly to anyone at Fidelity or has it been all written correspondence? Sometimes having a direct touchpoint will open doors at Fidelity.


Edit: Interactive Brokers requires $100k+ sum to open an account and is for folks with experience. That does not seem like a particular issue for you though.