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I've never quite understood how this works. And seriously, I'm not trying to be a smart arse here. I genuinely would like to know.

You hear a lot after someone dies of an illness they say, "They fought hard." How do you fight a disease hard? Is it prayer? Having a positive attitude? What indicates someone 'fought hard' against a disease?

1) Don't bemoan your fate or complain about the unfairness of it.

2) Act with dignity / virtue in all things you do.

You could similarly summarize this as being properly stoic-- not to be confused with unemotional... It's more about acting appropriately to control what you can, but not fretting or being afraid of what you cannot. (I apologize for the over-simplistic definition which many people are more than familiar with... I'm answering you directly as you said you are honestly seeking an answer, so I will assume you don't know anything about this subject.)

This might sound easy, and in some ways it can be. Then again, it seems more common for people to complain about any burden they endure, to blame others when possible, and to milk their victimhood for attention or as an excuse to avoid fulfilling responsibilities.

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Posted by mallardhank

Atlanta

Member since Feb 2006

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Posted on 8/15/21 at 3:02 pm to epbart

My wife is going thru this as we speak. The Non Small Cell Lung Cancer has reared its ugly head for the third time. She starts radiation this week for a spot on the lining of the skull and a spot on her spine. A PET scan this Tuesday will tell us if it’s elsewhere.
We have been clean for two years due to the medication called Tagrisso. Unfortunately it doesn’t last forever snd this particular brand of cancer is very aggressive.
We are extremely lucky that both our children are in their thirties and successful. We’ve had friends pass from cancer that left behind very young children.
My wife is a fighter. She keeps in great physical condition walking and working out almost every day. We will follow whatever treatments the doctors recommend. I’m trying my best to be there and support this wonderful person that I’ve been blessed to share my life with for forty four years.
I hope you never find yourselves in this position. Be strong snd supportive. I’m a survivor of renal cancer snd until the disease is cured as mine was you live a hellish nightmare 24/7.
God bless if you’re going thru this

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