man hitting on my wife at our community pool - how should I handle it?

We are members of a community pool

We signed our 11 year old autistic daughter up for swim lessons, she was placed with another little girl that is 3 or 4 years younger

The father approached my wife (no pics) after swim lessons, talked about how his brother has autism & suggested getting the girls together for a play date

So, my wife texted him and told him to reach out & we would set it up

Before she got home, he sends her a very long text, he let her know that he was really good at “deep tissue massages” & “joked” that it “may be inappropriate” for him to tell her that

So, I want to confront the guy and cause a scene at the pool, maybe even start a fight (or emasculate him to the point that he has 2 choices, slink away in humiliation or take a swing at me, which is what I really want)

My wife wants to ignore the situation unless he reaches out again, she hates the idea of this being made public and does not want attention brought to herself

So yeah, I’m flattered that someone thinks my wife looks good enough to hit on, but livid that he did so at a neighborhood community pool for families

I am also thinking about showing his text to members of the board and requesting that his membership be revoked

So, what would the OT do in this situation?