re: How long have you been married?

Been together 30 years.
Dated 5 years, Married 25 years.

I guess you can say we had 5 year plans. We had unplanned help courtesy of Army deployments for some of this.

5 years dating before marriage.
5 years marriage before 1st kid.
5 years with 1st kid before second kid.

Try not going to bed while mad at the other. Sometimes this is hard, but it does work more than it doesn't.

We do lots of stuff together. (travel, camping/ glamping, hiking, biking, sporting events).
We also do stuff without each other. (fishing for me, shopping for her).
Find that balance that works for you. You don't need to be together for every single thing. You need to do your own thing sometimes.

I have my friends, she has her friends and we have our friends. We don't get caught up in someone else's drama nor do we drag anyone else into our drama.

We have a couple of date nights a month without the kids.
Sometimes we have a weekend getaway without the kids.

We tell each other in words and show each other in actions that we love them.

We are and always have been sexually compatible with each other. Sometimes we F@#$, sometimes we make love. Know the difference between the two and know when one is needed above the other.

We both have always been family first types, but we also know when we need just us time.

We have faith in God and know that we have been blessed.
We pray to God for help when we need it and thank God for the blessings He has given us always.

Marriage can be hard work, but both sides have to work towards achieving a happy marriage. You can't be one foot in, one foot out. Both of you are either all in or it isn't going to work.