re: How long have you been married?

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People used to say things like, "It is healthy to fight!" and I always felt like that was just a justification for their own disrespectful relationship. We were both raised by parents who are still happily married and have never called each other a name or been disrespectful to each other.

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This is one of the places where my wife and I are different. My wife's family was much more Brady Brunch than mine. Her Mom and Dad are about to make their 50th Anniversary in a few weeks. They ate dinner together every night, had what most people would consider as wholesome an upbringing as you could imagine. My mom died when I was really young, and had she lived I'm fairly certainly my parents would have split up, as I found out much later that my Dad was a serial cheater. My house hold was fairly crazy growing up, but I always just slid through it. I was never wired for all the drama. So it was one of those things that fit well when we met. While I had not grown up that way, it was the life I craved, so I fit perfectly.

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We both genuinely enjoy the other person being there around our friends and hanging out. I feel lucky every day.

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Yup. There have been times in our life where we've worked together. I mean...sure I love her, but I like her as well so I like spending time with her. If I didn't like her, what would be the point of all this? There are times when instead of telling her I love her, I tell her I like her and wink at her.

And just because this topic kind of demands this song...don't let his appearance get in the way of how sweet the song is at heart.

Tim Minchin - If I Didn't Have You