re: One of the saddest stories of infidelity I've read

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How do I survive this fricking guilt?

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I would tell her........

The only advice I can think of is for you to rebuild your life with your husband and children. Sure your deceased father was not your biological father, but you will always refer to him as your Dad. He loved you and was there for you in key difficult moments of your life. So now maybe his legacy is that his daughter (yes his daughter) will carry on his example of unconditional love towards his grandchildren.

Trust me raising children today is a challenge. It will demand from you and your husband unconditional love and affirmation. I would say given the challenge of raising well adusted children today requires that parents do not harbor anger and hatred in their hearts. For that reason (and I know this is hard) consider reconciling with your mother. Maybe not now......but maybe someday.

Finally, there is a God. Yes I believe there is a God. Without going into detail, I will say this God of Abraham helped me to overcome a crushing betrayal in my own life. I found forgiveness for my betrayer in the message of His son Jesus as He hung on the Cross, "Forgive them Daddy, they don't know what they're doing"

You sound like such a loving person. You Dad taught you well. Good Luck!