re: How does one be a non-neurotic soccer dad?

I can appreciate how you feel. It helps to keep things in perspective, as the chances of his playing beyond high school are very slim even if he is an excellent 11 yr old player. You want him to enjoy himself and not worry if he is not meeting your expectations. He wants you to go to his games, and share in his success while being there for him at times of failure. He does not want you to remind him before the game to do whatever it is you are always trying to get him to do better. He knows what to do. He does not want to rehash the game for 30 minutes afterwards. He wants to get ice cream. Don't yell at him from the sidelines, other than a few words of encouragement. If you are a yeller on the sidelines, try this. The next game, watch the entire game without saying a word. Just watch your kid. Don't get caught up in the bad calls, the parents of the other team, or a few rough fouls. Just watch the beauty of your son doing something he loves, at a very high level, that he will never do in quite the same way again.