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Hubba was it your wife's birth son that she gave up for adoption? What did she ever decide to do about that situation? It was so hard to read all of that.

Yes, while I was away on business, she searched from the obituary, and then through that information and Facebook, she found his wife's Facebook page and messaged her. The wife reached back out and they exchanged email and phone numbers.

She let her know all about her son, shared pictures and stories, and told her that he died in an accident doing what he loved to do. Apparently, they talked and cried together for hours, and my wife was able to walk away with closure. The ball is now in the widow's court and there's an open invitation if she ever wants the three kids to know who their biological grandmother is, our door is open. Best outcome I could have hoped for.

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Posted by Rouge

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Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:50 am to HubbaBubba

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she searched from the obituary, and then through that information and Facebook, she found his wife's Facebook page and messaged her.

Thanks for confirming that whole thread was looking for confirmations and not real advice

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Posted by tiger91

In my own little world

Member since Nov 2005

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Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:52 am to HubbaBubba

Wow Hubba thats awesome. I wonder if the adoptive parents are pisssed that the widow talked to her? Did she know he was adopted??

And for those who said adoption is selfish, as a mom I see it as a wonderful option. I have several friends who have beautiful families thanks to adoption

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Posted by Sentrius

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Member since Jun 2011

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Posted on 1/16/18 at 9:55 am to HubbaBubba

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Yes, while I was away on business, she searched from the obituary, and then through that information and Facebook, she found his wife's Facebook page and messaged her. The wife reached back out and they exchanged email and phone numbers.

She let her know all about her son, shared pictures and stories, and told her that he died in an accident doing what he loved to do. Apparently, they talked and cried together for hours, and my wife was able to walk away with closure. The ball is now in the widow's court and there's an open invitation if she ever wants the three kids to know who their biological grandmother is, our door is open. Best outcome I could have hoped for.

Three cheers to a happy ending and closure for everyone involved.