re: How does a basic prenuptial agreement work?

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Tigerfan56

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Well said. I didn't mean to come off as arrogant and thinking I have all these important assets. But to me it is a lot, and I realize that's because I lack perspective and long term. I know it's a bad way to think about things ending before they start, but that's just my nature- I'm always thinking about the worst case scenario and planning for that. My views of a prenuptial agreement were very off. I've just grown up hearing horror stories about starting over after a divorce and the ex taking everything. I don't have one foot out the door, although it may seem like that, I just run through every possible scenario

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One of the things I think sometimes gets kids-and I don't mean that derisively-defensive when they come to ask for advice here is because they oftentimes get the Money Talk equivalent of a Rolling Stone lyric...

You can't always get what you want/
But if you try sometimes you might find/
You get what you need

Nobody's dogging you for being a thinker, a worrier, or a planner. Those are admirable qualities and they probably have helped put you in an enviable financial position compared to other kids your age.

The horror stories you grew up hearing had more to do with either men who were sh!tty husbands or broads who were floozies and not wives. They're also stories told by those folks who are more than likely much older than you are. Who had things like boats, cars, cash and kids tied up in a divorce.

In order to get where they are, you'll have to go down a path with 3,578 steps. In order. Right now? You're somewhere between step 2 or 3.

Choose your mate wisely. Give her the keys to the castle. Without trust it's over before it starts. Approaching her like that is a huge signal on your end that you don't trust her at all.

If you still feel cautious, it may be time to examine the relationship and the decision you're about to make.