re: Got a dilemma, would you tell another man

Sounds like you're really pissed at the guy...nothing's stopping you from trying to kick his arse. Being butt hurt about some other guy's approach to getting laid is sort of strange. I know your brother is hurt, but he has to look inside himself to figure out why his wife would step out on him. Blaming the guy who she cheated with is insane, even if he is good at it.