re: Still waiting on my return from 2013

I can't really give you any helpful advice with your situation but just so you will use the correct term in the future if you call the IRS again, you're not waiting on your "return."

You have filed your return. That's the paperwork that TurboTax prepares for you.

You are waiting for your "refund."

If you tell the IRS when you call that you're waiting for your return, there's really no telling what they think your situation is. Not that it should stop you from getting your refund but just so you know.

Good luck fighting the IRS. It's very frustrating.

Sorry for your loss of your wife.