re: ex wife keeping my kids need court to make her stop i guess

The court order has specific rules that you two are supposed to adhere to. Start creating a documentation trail for the times when she breaks the rules. A lawyer probably won't help much until you've got documentation. Try to communicate through text or email as much as possible and avoid voice calls if you can.

Before you escalate to a lawyer, make sure you are in compliance with the court order because she might try to fight back. You need to be up to date on child support, address change notifications, etc.

Whatever you do, keep the well-being of the kids as the top priority.