re: Complicated marriage/legal question involving finances

I’ve seen on here drugs, adultery, etc. Let me throw out another possibility:

You stated somewhere on here that your wife is in her late 40s and her erratic and odd behavior recently started. It could be menopause. I am a woman who has gone though it. I got tired of my now ex-husbands shite and finally left him - once menopause hit. All those unresolved and continuing issues finally boiled over.

CAREFULLY suggest to her she may be going through menopause and ask her to get her hormones checked. Does she have a regular DR or GYN? Call them. Tell them what is going on with the changes in her behavior. Ask them if it may be menopause and if they can recommend hormone testing at her next visit…Then, figure out how to get her to go in for a checkup.

Did I read you are the bread winner? Does that mean you make most of the money or all of the money? Does she work? If not, she needs to get a job.

Change your direct deposit to go into your new personal account. However, be certain to continue financing family obligations as usual - whatever that is. This includes YOU taking over the task of paying the bills which should be easy now a days with autopay features most banks offer for free.

Most importantly, until you can figure out what is going on with your wife you have a moral obligation to protect your children.

If you have the funds, hire a private investigator to follow her - preferably one recommended by your divorce attorney.

Remember, hiring a divorce attorney does not mean you are divorcing. It means you are gathering necessary information and preparing yourself for what may come.

Just my $.02.