re: 12 Year Old Girl with BPD

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I thought about sending her to a military school, but that won't work.

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Check into residential treatment/school facilities. They will have people who specialize in the treatment.

Threatening suicide, and multiple attempts l, are textbook borderline behaviors. As are substance abuse and acting out sexually. If you set limits and boundaries, you MUST abide by them. Any crack and they will exploit it.

Unfortunately, many borderlines to end up committing suicide “accidentally.” Their intent is to attempt and get found in time to be saved, but sometimes their timing is off.

Get her into therapy with a specialist and make sure she stays med compliant. Don’t let her destroy your family. Oftentimes families are a casualty of the borderline. You and your wife need to always be on the same page.

I will tell you that we have a friend whose 18 yr old is a borderline. After many years and tears they are finally making some headway. Get your daughter into something she likes and can focus on. Our friend’s daughter has started baking. She is also holding a job.

Good luck.