re: How do you reason with people that don't realize this is a self-own?

So here's the problem with the analogy.

There aren't really carrots in that can. The owner of the can just thinks or feels like what's inside the can is carrots. But it's actually full of peas just like it's supposed to be.

And this is the most destructive part of the trans stuff. The author of the post obviously thinks that the feelings in the equation are what are immutable and unchangeable instead of the physical reality of the situation.

That feelings actually turn peas into carrots.