re: Getting financially screwed in divorce

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Yes I could see the Roth and pension contributions being split evenly if i was the only worker and she was a stay at home mom. Or even if she worked part time. But the case is we both worked full time. The entire marriage. The same job. I just had more experience and pay and saved. To come for that portion now is completely immoral. And completely legal. In these states, the millisecond you marry someone who doesn't save or have as much saved away prior to the marriage.....you are at a complete financial disadvantage and outleveraged. Just be careful out there folks.

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No offense but everything you say makes me believe that you and she never got the point of marriage. “What’s mine is ours” is a bare minimum aspect of marriage. If you don’t even have that mindset, why did you get married at all?

”my checking account”, “my retirement” etc are incompatible with coming into complete union with another person. And isn’t that union what we are seeking? Isn’t the world a lonely place for most people and getting lonelier?

Young men out there who aren’t seeking a lifelong and ultimate companion and aren’t willing to risk their money for a chance at this certainly should remain alone or in the company of the type of women who will be ok with that. But don’t waste the time and feelings of marriage-minded women if you aren’t actually seeking that in earnest.