re: A pal of mine said his son wants to be a girl

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He can dress feminine, he can use a feminine name, but no one can make the decision to actually change one’s biology from a male to female or vice versa. This is real life not manga. Forced lying to a trans will also never change that fact, and they know this which is why they get so crazy about being “misgendered”. If they don’t get to act like caricatures of their choice and have their choice and pronouns confirmed to them over and over again (or stay angry if not 100%) they have too much time to think about how they are different and will always be different.

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Look I agree that its mental illness and he can try to get the kid help but at the end of the day a 25 year old makes his/her own decisions no matter how dumb they might be. His only real course of action is to cut the kid off.

If I were him, I'd cut the kid off financially but still be there for them in hopes that I could eventually convince them to get help. Flipping out and "beating" the guy/girl isn't going to help. I'd ask them to wait a year to have the surgery and see if they were willing to talk to a professional. I'd pay for the therapy buts thats it. IDK, just my 2 cents.