re: Anyone Ever Divorce a BiPolar Spouse

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Question is why would anyone marry someone that is Bipolar?

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When they’re manic, everything is great. They’re the most charming, intelligent, interesting, brilliant, funny, caring person you’ve ever met, or their neuroticism will be cranked up to 11.

When they’re depressive, they suck all of the life, color, and joy out of the room.

When you’re dating, bipolar people just tend to stay in when they’re depressive. They just cancel plans or avoid seeing their SO if it’s not inconvenient to do so. They’ll go out with them when they’re manic, so it’s easy to only show their partner one side of them for quite a ways into a relationship.

Often times, one really won’t see any problems until they’re living together, which means the relationship is already pretty serious with strong feelings having been developed. At that point, feelings can cloud the eyes that see a problem until it spirals out of control. The thing is, no matter how bad one side of the cycle is, the other side is usually equally great. So, things oscillate often enough that partners begin to normalize the bad behavior because it’s balanced with great behavior. This continues until the constant emotional whiplash wears their partner down, the one with bipolar disorder gets help, or the one with bipolar does something simply too awful to ignore or forgive.