re: Does your non-married significant other split living expenses 50/50 with you?

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I know plenty of couples that have separate finances and split bills and It’s always bizarre to me.

Just combine it all and talk to one another about what you’re spending. I’ve never once had something where I really wanted something that would make me happy that my wife has been against it and vice versa.

You need the other person to tell you it’s okay to spend on things you love as well as hold you accountable. If I spend on something I don’t actually want, I know that sets us back. Not very nice when it isnt just me in the relationship.

The issue is most people do it backwards. They feel like they are stopped from spending what they want because it’s not just their money and the other person is a foil in that regard.

It’s backwards. If you want solo money, be a solo person.

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Both parties have to trust and respect one another.

I doubt this is the case with most relationships given the current divorce rate.