re: Genuine OT help on a new engagee

Tell her the lack of progress is a concern, see how selfish she is with her response.

If you have been together years and living together whats she getting out of marrying you? Shes probably getting everything she wants without a marriage. I see a lot of red flags here.

She's worried abour accomodating everyone and elderly relatives but wants them all to spend thousands of dollars to fly to and stay in Hawaii???? This is crazy level thinking.