re: Soft White Underbelly- A Divorce Attorney’s Thoughts on Love and Marriage

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You need to re-read this quote. Really, deeply, and attentively read it and understand it. If you do that and still come away thinking “Yeah, I’m right. I nailed it” you need serious help and you need to get the hell off the internet and go have real, deep, human interactions. Hopefully one where you can put someone else above your own base needs.

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take out the stuff about lipstick and blowjobs, and i'm not sure what you can really argue with there. certainly aligns with my experience. we must not only listen, but entertain and even AGREE with every emotional flight of fancy that crosses a woman's mind, no matter how objectively ludicrous it is. and if we dont listen, agree, and actively work to relieve the woman of the emotional burden of carrying her dreamed up crisis, then we are guilty of "emotional abuse". and if we DO listen, agree, and relieve them of their Monday crises, well there is a Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday crisis coming as well, and you fricking better handle those just as well or better than Monday's, otherwise - you guessed it - you are an abuser.