re: Follow up re: my imminent divorce UPDATE PG 20

I’ve been following your story and I’m really sorry you’re having to go through all of this. Talk to your therapist, follow their advice, and take your time to mourn the relationship. Hopefully the findings of the paternity test will give you some answers that allow you to either prepare for fatherhood (a blessing) or completely close the chapter on this relationship and move on (also a blessing).

But I’m going to say, from a female perspective, you need to take control of your life. The self pity and sad sap routine will only attract another woman who will not respect you. You should want a partner, not a caretaker.

If this is the place where you anonymously post your sad thoughts and feelings but you manage to keep your shite together in your real life, then cool. But if you’re letting the grief and sadness control you in all aspects of your life, you need to work through it in therapy so that you can move on and build a better future for yourself and your future family.