re: Encouraging grandparents to move closer to grandkids or simplify. Anyone ever done this?

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um, both are selfish. Both cases are people valuing their own life and possessions over another.

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You're 70 years old. You live in the same house that you've been in since your children were in grade school. You not only have not gotten rid of anything, you've expanded your house multiple times to make room for all the extra crap you now own. You don't work anymore, have few hobbies, and have excess money and time.

Your kids are in their early 40's. They live hours away, they work 50+ hours a week, their spouses work, their kids have multiple hobbies and activities that keep you busy all the time. Maybe you get a quiet Sunday afternoon with your family every once in a while.


Who has more time? Who should make the concessions if those parties are going to have a meaningful relationship?

When you start a family, your priority is your spouse and your children, not your parents.