re: How do we stop the issue of kids with no involved father?

How is the biblical order of family working?

I know people who grew up in a household with a mother and father, who were ultra-religious and ended up in an out of jail, addicted to drugs, etc.

There are males who grew up without a father and ended up being a great father (don't get me wrong, I think kids need a male presence in their life, but sometimes its best if its not their real father).

All of these formulas and role expectations are great in a perfect world, but we don't live in a perfect world.

What if a child has shite parents and he/she gets to an age where they realize their parents are not doing what's best for the children, should the child continue to obey?

If a child has abusive parents, should they still love their parents?

The answer to your question is... to live in a perfect world.