re: Feminism will be the death of us all

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But there is a structural issue in the American divorce system that disincentivizes marriage for men. With a marriage rate of 40-50% that can financially ruin men and destroy their relationship with their children it is a bad bargain. If someone approached you with a business opportunity to become a partner in some venture that you had to put years into but told you that there is a 50% chance that the venture would fail and ruin you financially, would you do it? Most men would say absolutely not. Pearl Davis examines the conundrum in this video.

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There is a solution to this, and I think Pearl Davis misses this point

She may be right on the “averages”, but not every marriage is the same from the start, so you can’t just say every marriage going into it is 50% likely to divorce. In reality some are like 90-95% and some are 5-10%

I don’t know what the stat is, but I would wonder what the divorce rate is among two traditional conservative Catholics or Orthodox, who both share the same morality and beliefs and family goals, and who both enter into marriage chaste or as virgins? It’s probably a fraction of a percent

This lifestyle is not pushed at all by anyone, but it makes a ton of sense. I know it’s hard to sell “virginity as being cool” to young guys. But if it means you get to marry a nice, cute girl at a young age who will respect you and have a lot of sex after getting married it may be better than the alternative of soiling your oats until your lates 20s/early 30s, marrying a career chick with a body count and bag of emotional issues, entering into a secular marriage and see how the marriage looks in 5-10 years. It’s probably miserable, the wife is likely angry and hostile and not having sex.

I don’t think it’s as important for men to be virgins going into marriage, however by staying chaste, it will increase your likelihood of finding a chaste woman to marry. From the woman’s perspective, it is much more important that she is a virgin. I would love to see the statistics on women who are virgins going into marriage versus women who have multiple previous partners

Full disclosure, I did not live this lifestyle before my own marriage. I spent my teens/early 20s living a fairly typical hedonistic lifestyle… lots of one night hookups and casual sex, heavy drinking, etc. it has affected my marriage in a number of ways that forced me to confront and surrender to Jesus. But it was and still is not easy. I could have done things to make it easier on myself, which I am encouraging my own kids and other young adults to persue a more virtuous lifestyle, if not for any other reason than it will make their life and marriage easier later on

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This looks Satanic.