re: Young(ish) Relative Dies

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Somebody I wen to high school with adopted a child from a Russian orphanage

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Hold old when adopted?

100% children 2 yrs or older are molested daily. The orphanages pimp them out nightly

IDK exactly how old. He wasn't a newborn.

If that is true....holy shite

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adopted a child from a Russian orphanage

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Within the last year I have met two different (unrelated) guys who have adult daughters that they adopted from Russia as infants. Both guys are successful businessmen, and the daughters were apparently raised in upper middle class households and given every advantage possible. Both described essentially the same situation...namely, no matter how good things go for the daughters, they eventually do something to self-sabotage the situation. They both described a constant cycle of the girls starting to get on track (start college, do well at a job, hang out with good friends, etc.) but then they inevitably do something to destroy it all. Then they start getting better with help, but eventually do it all over again. They both also described the girls causing serious conflict within the household by going against other siblings or the moms.

The dads are stuck because they love their daughters and feel obligated to help them like any troubled child...but they resign themselves to the fact that it will just happen again. And the dads also have to be protective of the other family members. It sounds heartbreaking and exhausting. It sounds like the girls both have some type of internal trauma or "programming" that they just can't seem to shake.