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re: What's Usually the More Devastating Loss? Mom? Or Dad?
Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:56 am to TigerFanInSouthland
Posted on 4/1/15 at 9:56 am to TigerFanInSouthland
I'm 21 and lost my mom two weeks ago. We were really close, but I had mentally prepared myself though because she had colon cancer and we knew it was coming.
It was still devastating but I think losing my dad will be tougher. Like an earlier poster said, he's my best friend and I doubt I'll be able to handle it as well as I did with my mom.
It was still devastating but I think losing my dad will be tougher. Like an earlier poster said, he's my best friend and I doubt I'll be able to handle it as well as I did with my mom.
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Posted on 4/1/15 at 10:34 am to HermanBoone
Sorry about the loss of your Mom.I hope you and your Dad have many,many years together.
Posted on 4/1/15 at 10:45 am to TigerFanInSouthland
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What's Usually the More Devastating Loss? Mom? Or Dad?
Guess it depends.
My mom died when I was 5 (about to turn 6.) I have almost no memories of her, which I guess also talks to my lack of paying attention to things even as a kid. Her loss hurt at the time, but really more so as I got older because her not being there changed my life...simple things like rides to and from places, having to always carpool with other friends and their moms, etc. what REALLY finally hurt though was when I had kids of my own and I realized that if my boys were wired like I was all of this wonderful time I spent with them when they were little would be totally forgotten by them if something happened to me. fricking sobering...
My Dad died (it will be 13 years to the day on April 2) and never knew my boys, but knew OF the oldest as my wife and I had JUST gotten the first ultrasound back and found out it was a boy. He knew that info for about four days before he died.
His loss was pretty devastating because he was the parent I had left...the one that was always there. I knew him significantly longer and actually had a relationship with that I remember. I seeing my sons every day and knowing he'll never know them and they him always stings.
Had both parents lived and then died when I was older things may have been different, though.
Posted on 4/1/15 at 11:01 am to HeadyMurphey
Depends on the situation. If you were raised by both parents, then I think losing the mom would be the hardest. If you were raised by a single parent, then which ever parent (mom or dad) you lose would be the hardest.
Posted on 4/1/15 at 11:14 am to TigerFanInSouthland
I have lost both and Mom was worse to me by far. My dad said to me one time before I had lost either of them that, "When you lose your Dad you lose your best friend but when you lose your mom, you lose life as you know it." He was right. When moms not there, nothing is the same. Family dinners, Holidays, Family dinners are very different if at all.
Posted on 4/1/15 at 11:20 am to TigerFanInSouthland
My dad died in 2011...I still have not "mourned" it. Didn't shed a tear at the funeral or anything.
When my mom goes, I'm sure it will be a different story. She and I are very close.
When my mom goes, I'm sure it will be a different story. She and I are very close.
Posted on 4/1/15 at 11:34 am to Lsuwannabe
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"When you lose your Dad you lose your best friend but when you lose your mom, you lose life as you know it."
Posted on 4/1/15 at 11:37 am to TigerFanInSouthland
I really think it depends on how they died too. If someone dies from a heart attack or a car accident, it affects you differently than the death of someone who dies from cancer or something like that.
My dad died unexpectedly, and that was really hard to deal with. My mom passed after a long illness, so I had plenty of time to prepare myself for what I knew was coming. I was definitely closer to my mom, but her loss was much less devastating. I miss them about equally though.
My dad died unexpectedly, and that was really hard to deal with. My mom passed after a long illness, so I had plenty of time to prepare myself for what I knew was coming. I was definitely closer to my mom, but her loss was much less devastating. I miss them about equally though.
Posted on 4/1/15 at 11:39 am to TigerFanInSouthland
Depends really. I was raised by my Dad. My mom kind of bailed on us when her and my Dad got divorced so I never had that Mom/Son relationship with her. So it will be far worse when my old man passes.
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