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re: Question for those that travel a lot for work
Posted on 12/19/22 at 11:53 am to 12
Posted on 12/19/22 at 11:53 am to 12
I’m often out on Monday mornings and back Thursday nights. Lately that’s slowing and I am happier for it.
How will that change when you are on the road?
You have to balance needs of your work, yourself, and your family. It sounds like you, like most of us, are already struggling to find that balance. You’ll end up putting yourself last and not taking vacation days, stop working out, or you will develop bad habits to self medicate.
Be careful with this. I can’t stress this enough. A lot of men put too much pressure on themselves to maximize their earnings and their time with family and end up ignoring their own personal needs. That’s the real “toxic masculinity” - not this bullshite these feminists are spouting. Try not to cave to that pressure to chase money while ignoring you and your family’s well being.
A 38 year old colleague and close friend of mine just recently had a heart attack (Covid/Vaccine related maybe - but he’s also an extremely hard worker and puts a lot of pressure on himself). He survived. He has been under a lot of stress and travels almost every week - it’s causing a lot of us that know him to rethink this lifestyle.
I’m very well compensated. That’s about the best thing about it. I could go out right now and buy a boat or a Porsche or a trip to anywhere I want. But would not have time to enjoy it. And at this rate I won’t live long enough to retire.
My job is extremely stressful and demands a huge amount of my time. The intense travel schedule is on top of that - it’s wasted time that I can’t fully use to focus on myself, my family, or work. And when I’m home, I often fail to disconnect fully after work without a drink. That’s not healthy in the long run and I am slowly realizing that I need an exit strategy.
Do not take a job that puts even more time demands on you when you are already struggling with the work life balance.
I implore you to not take even more time from family or yourself if you are already having trouble with this balance. It’s not worth it.
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I put in a lot of hours now and work more than I should.
How will that change when you are on the road?
You have to balance needs of your work, yourself, and your family. It sounds like you, like most of us, are already struggling to find that balance. You’ll end up putting yourself last and not taking vacation days, stop working out, or you will develop bad habits to self medicate.
Be careful with this. I can’t stress this enough. A lot of men put too much pressure on themselves to maximize their earnings and their time with family and end up ignoring their own personal needs. That’s the real “toxic masculinity” - not this bullshite these feminists are spouting. Try not to cave to that pressure to chase money while ignoring you and your family’s well being.
A 38 year old colleague and close friend of mine just recently had a heart attack (Covid/Vaccine related maybe - but he’s also an extremely hard worker and puts a lot of pressure on himself). He survived. He has been under a lot of stress and travels almost every week - it’s causing a lot of us that know him to rethink this lifestyle.
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My question is for those of you that travel a lot and have families. Is it worth it to you?
I’m very well compensated. That’s about the best thing about it. I could go out right now and buy a boat or a Porsche or a trip to anywhere I want. But would not have time to enjoy it. And at this rate I won’t live long enough to retire.
My job is extremely stressful and demands a huge amount of my time. The intense travel schedule is on top of that - it’s wasted time that I can’t fully use to focus on myself, my family, or work. And when I’m home, I often fail to disconnect fully after work without a drink. That’s not healthy in the long run and I am slowly realizing that I need an exit strategy.
Do not take a job that puts even more time demands on you when you are already struggling with the work life balance.
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I have to decide if missing the time with my wife and kids is worth it in the long run.
I implore you to not take even more time from family or yourself if you are already having trouble with this balance. It’s not worth it.
This post was edited on 12/19/22 at 12:04 pm
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Posted on 12/19/22 at 12:53 pm to 12
I used to travel about 50% for work. I was leaving the house one Sunday evening and my then 4 yr old son said "Dad come back and visit us soon". That was the breaking point and I found a new job where I didn't travel so much.
Posted on 12/19/22 at 12:55 pm to 12
What sort of travel schedule? Days away at a time, etc.
Posted on 12/19/22 at 3:53 pm to 12
How bad do you need the job? Now is not a good time to be looking for work. I traveled a lot when I was younger. Never thought twice about it because I needed the money.
In my limited experience, some companies will hold it against you if you refuse a promotion. To them, that means you're not a team player and not committed to the company. Can you afford that hit?
If this is just a job and you can get another one like it? That's one decision. If this is your career? And you want to stay with this industry/company? Your options are limited.
In my limited experience, some companies will hold it against you if you refuse a promotion. To them, that means you're not a team player and not committed to the company. Can you afford that hit?
If this is just a job and you can get another one like it? That's one decision. If this is your career? And you want to stay with this industry/company? Your options are limited.
This post was edited on 12/19/22 at 3:54 pm
Posted on 12/19/22 at 4:13 pm to 12
As some have mentioned....
I traveled a maximum of 200 days a year for over a decade.
1.4 million miles in an airplane.
Sometime for months at a time, all over the world.
Some stints, I was mostly US based.
I mostly worked from home in these positions.
I made my own schedule, could stay at any hotel I wanted (e.g. $500/night at the Intercontinental in Sydney for instance)- a huge amount of freedom, and had very good personal friendships all over the world, so I was never bored. I ate at the best restaurants in the world, and rented BMWs/Audi/Mercedes to drive. I only wore clothes that came from Brooks Brothers.
I was really good at my job. There were sooooo many perks...sailfishing in Guatemala, safaris in South Africa, diving in Mauritius.
I hated it. It stressed my marriage, I missed a lot of my young kids things- and to this day, I really think I neglected my youngest.
Thank God for the most awesome wife in the world.
Now, I own my own company, should be stressed out like a fool, and I'm as happy in life as I've ever been- because I am home every night.
Proceed with caution- you do you, and only you know what you are capable of. But this lifestyle requires a HUGE amount of mental toughness.
It can really screw with your mind to leave home, go to LAX, land in Sydney, stay for a bit, go to Delhi, stay for a bit, stop in Belgium, have a meeting, go to Brazil, work, fly home. All in 3 weeks. And your company will expect you to be 110% at each stop.
I traveled a maximum of 200 days a year for over a decade.
1.4 million miles in an airplane.
Sometime for months at a time, all over the world.
Some stints, I was mostly US based.
I mostly worked from home in these positions.
I made my own schedule, could stay at any hotel I wanted (e.g. $500/night at the Intercontinental in Sydney for instance)- a huge amount of freedom, and had very good personal friendships all over the world, so I was never bored. I ate at the best restaurants in the world, and rented BMWs/Audi/Mercedes to drive. I only wore clothes that came from Brooks Brothers.
I was really good at my job. There were sooooo many perks...sailfishing in Guatemala, safaris in South Africa, diving in Mauritius.
I hated it. It stressed my marriage, I missed a lot of my young kids things- and to this day, I really think I neglected my youngest.
Thank God for the most awesome wife in the world.
Now, I own my own company, should be stressed out like a fool, and I'm as happy in life as I've ever been- because I am home every night.
Proceed with caution- you do you, and only you know what you are capable of. But this lifestyle requires a HUGE amount of mental toughness.
It can really screw with your mind to leave home, go to LAX, land in Sydney, stay for a bit, go to Delhi, stay for a bit, stop in Belgium, have a meeting, go to Brazil, work, fly home. All in 3 weeks. And your company will expect you to be 110% at each stop.
This post was edited on 12/19/22 at 4:17 pm
Posted on 12/19/22 at 7:50 pm to 12
I appreciate all of the responses. I have a little while to make a decision. My family got used to me traveling for a couple of years but it was hard at times.
The difference now would be my travel schedule. I was gone for 2 weeks at a time before. There were sometimes periods of me being home for a month before leaving again. This job would require more frequent travel but I would usually leave on Monday and be home by Thursday or Friday.
It’s a big decision for sure. My wife is a teacher, so there are times they could go with me during the Summer. Especially if I’m in a desirable location. It is nationwide travel. Sometimes in big cities and others in very rural areas.
I’m not sure what I’m going to do right now. I’m off for the next 2 weeks, so I have extra time to think and be with my family. Thanks for the replies and sharing your experiences.
The difference now would be my travel schedule. I was gone for 2 weeks at a time before. There were sometimes periods of me being home for a month before leaving again. This job would require more frequent travel but I would usually leave on Monday and be home by Thursday or Friday.
It’s a big decision for sure. My wife is a teacher, so there are times they could go with me during the Summer. Especially if I’m in a desirable location. It is nationwide travel. Sometimes in big cities and others in very rural areas.
I’m not sure what I’m going to do right now. I’m off for the next 2 weeks, so I have extra time to think and be with my family. Thanks for the replies and sharing your experiences.
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