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re: OT Parents: do/would you supply your teen with condoms?
Posted on 4/11/15 at 4:24 pm to FootballNostradamus
Posted on 4/11/15 at 4:24 pm to FootballNostradamus
At what age would you start supplying them with contraception?
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Posted on 4/11/15 at 4:27 pm to Dire Wolf
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Rather not get birth control,that is convered by health insurance, instead having your kids pay for condoms with your money?
that is probably the most difficult tight rope to walk, which is it "we know you're going to do it anyway so we'll provide the protection" or "we've brought you up the best way we know how to and have tried to lead by example of how to make good decisions and we trust you to exercise good judgement"?
Posted on 4/11/15 at 4:31 pm to 777Tiger
I would sure like to think my children would exercise good judgment but hormones can be a bitch.
Posted on 4/11/15 at 4:33 pm to Tunasntigers92
How awesome was your judgment at 16-21
Posted on 4/11/15 at 4:35 pm to Tunasntigers92
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I would sure like to think my children would exercise good judgment but hormones can be a bitch.
I was taught well, but was a horny goat, took a lot of stupid chances but lucked out. That's a tough minefield for parents.
Posted on 4/11/15 at 4:36 pm to Dire Wolf
Not awesome.
Posted on 4/11/15 at 4:37 pm to 777Tiger
Not looking forward to navigating that minefield.
Posted on 4/11/15 at 4:37 pm to 777Tiger
quote:its real easy for me at 25 with no kids to say this but you can provide bc and still preach to them.
that is probably the most difficult tight rope to walk, which is it "we know you're going to do it anyway so we'll provide the protection" or "we've brought you up the best way we know how to and have tried to lead by example of how to make good decisions and we trust you to exercise good judgement"?
Just because you give them a rubber or a pill doesn't give them a licenses to frick everyone.
Posted on 4/11/15 at 4:38 pm to Dire Wolf
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How awesome was your judgment at 16-21
now that, imo is definitely a function of parenting, if helicoptered, not much, if sort of nudged in the direction of independence, better
Posted on 4/11/15 at 4:38 pm to Tunasntigers92
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Or just tell them to practice abstinence?
Both ... I would & have started with abstinence, but I'm not an idiot. At some point, it's going to happen, & I would much rather him be safe than sorry. Since my son's dad isn't in the picture, I've had to have these discussions with him, so we have a pretty open line of communication about sex. I've made it clear that I prefer abstinence (for many reasons for his own sake), but we've also discussed the possibility of his engaging in a sexual relationship when he's much older & in a monogamous, committed relationship. I have stressed NEVER to have unprotected sex, under any circumstances. So, yes, I would make sure condoms were available to him. He's a pretty level headed kid, & doesn't see sex as something to do with every girl he goes out with. His view is that he would have to be in a committed relationship & much older, so I feel better about that, at least.
Posted on 4/11/15 at 4:39 pm to Dire Wolf
quote:But I think some kids take advantage of this and it makes them feel more inclined to have sex.
Just because you give them a rubber or a pill doesn't give them a licenses to frick everyone.
Posted on 4/11/15 at 4:41 pm to Tunasntigers92
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But I think some kids take advantage of this and it makes them feel more inclined to have sex.
Those same kids are probably already screwing.
It's more important to talk to your kids. Teenagers aren't going to magically stop having sex, the biggest thing stopping most teens from fricking is their own awkward self
This post was edited on 4/11/15 at 4:43 pm
Posted on 4/11/15 at 4:44 pm to Tunasntigers92
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quote: Just because you give them a rubber or a pill doesn't give them a licenses to frick everyone.quote:.
But I think some kids take advantage of this and it makes them feel more inclined to have sex
I think you just have to know your kid & certainly stress that having birth control isn't giving free rein on having sex. Obviously, that's an individual choice, but honestly, although I definitely prefer abstinence, I still would rather my kid not have sexually transmitted diseases or be responsible for an unwanted pregnancy. Those are things that can alter his life forever, so definitely I would/will make sure condoms are available to him when he gets older, particularly when he has a steady gf.
Posted on 4/11/15 at 4:46 pm to Arkla Missy
That would probably be a good way to go about it.
Posted on 4/11/15 at 4:53 pm to Tunasntigers92
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But I think some kids take advantage of this and it makes them feel more inclined to have sex.
Posted on 4/11/15 at 4:55 pm to Jet12
That's a stretch haha but understandable.
This post was edited on 4/11/15 at 4:57 pm
Posted on 4/11/15 at 4:56 pm to Jet12
actually an excellent analogy, we knew there were consequences long before there were airbags, so we tried not to crash cars either, tight rope again, protection or self control?
Posted on 4/11/15 at 4:58 pm to Arkla Missy
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He's a pretty level headed kid, & doesn't see sex as something to do with every girl he goes out with
How old is he? That doesn't sound normal for a teenage boy.
Posted on 4/11/15 at 5:01 pm to Tunasntigers92
I'd give him the cash to buy condoms. He can go get them himself.
Posted on 4/11/15 at 5:16 pm to Tunasntigers92
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I would sure like to think my children would exercise good judgment but hormones can be a bitch.
Did you exercise good judgement or did you luck out?
I know I lucked out, and I'd personally prefer not to put my child's future and my financial well-being (which again I don't think this is being harped on enough, considering that I have an uncle who's raising his daughter's child, he will prob never retire) to luck.
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