re: NYC Divorce Attorney James Sexton with some jaw dropping statistics.

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Plenty of men are unfaithful, I’d say that entitles the wife of half if not more.

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Only an ignorant fool starts with this level of naiveness, as if women don't cheat just as much, and then calls others ignorant.

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There are also statistics that show married men live longer, are generally healthier, and are typically more successful in their careers

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Generally healthier ? Based on what ?

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Links have been provided.

Unlike what you posted in your OP, which leads me to:

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The divorce stats are hard stats.

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Funny how your stats are “hard stats” but everyone else’s aren’t. If it’s so definitive, explain what “52% of 1st marriages end in divorce” means. How was that measured? Was it 52% of every marriage ever? Or was it a certain time period? Was it everyone who got married within a certain time period? Or did they track a cohort through time? If it’s a cohort, how was it selected? Might there have been attributes about the cohort or the time period that could make the results less meaningful when applied to any given individual?

Speaking of application, why are we assuming that an “ambiguously defined” stat applies to everyone evenly? Are there certain attributes that are predictive of successful marriages like, oh idk, education, religion, conservative/progressive values, your own families of origin (hint: yes).

Your “hard stat” is meaningless. Not necessarily because its accuracy is sketchy (it is), but because it tells you absolutely nothing about you individually. If you got married for the 1st time tomorrow, you personally don’t have a 52% chance of getting divorced. That’s silly. It could be 10%. It could be 90%. That enormous error bar is filled with things that are under your control. Divorce isn’t like some Louisiana thunderstorm that comes out of nowhere in August. You have some friggin agency here. You’re not just a passive observer.

Unless you are, but that’s still a choice you made and if your marriage falls apart while you just sit there and stare with your thumb up your arse, you’re at least 50% to blame. That’s the stat that you really need to to be thinking about.

You quoted ChatGPT.

Literally there are lotsa question marks in what you quoted.

I don’t think that it’s only my perception of that either.

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married men tend to have better health, longer lives, and greater career achievements on average compared to single men, based on a significant body of research. However, the reasons are complex, and the benefits are not universal. Here's a breakdown:
? 1. Health Benefits Lower mortality rates: Married men tend to live longer than single men. This is seen across various studies and populations. Better physical health: Marriage is associated with lower rates of heart disease, better immune function, and fewer hospitalizations. Mental health: Married men often report lower levels of depression and loneliness. Health behaviors: Wives often encourage better habits (e.g., healthier diet, regular checkups, avoiding risky behaviors).
?? Caveat: The quality of the marriage matters. Unhappy or high-conflict marriages can negate or reverse these benefits.
? 2. Longevity Studies show that married men live, on average, several years longer than their unmarried counterparts. This advantage is partly due to: Better emotional and social support. Reduced risky behaviors (e.g., smoking, excessive drinking). More structured lives and routines.
? 3. Career and Financial Achievement Higher earnings: Married men often earn more than single men, even when controlling for education and experience. Career stability: They tend to have more stable employment and longer job tenure. Motivation: Marriage may encourage men to work harder or take fewer risks, especially if they have children. Social perception: Employers may view married men as more responsible or reliable.
?? Note: The correlation doesn’t imply that marriage causes these gains — some men who are already more stable, driven, or healthy may be more likely to marry.
?? Important Nuances Selection bias: Healthier, more successful men are more likely to get married and stay married. Cultural and socioeconomic factors: These vary by country and class. In some cultures, the benefits of marriage may be stronger or weaker. Single men aren't doomed: Many single men live long, healthy, successful lives. Marriage isn't a silver bullet.

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The question marks are icons that do not translate to viewable characters on TD.

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A careful poster would edit those unsightly symbols out.