Have Mercy indeed! Your MIL sounds like a miserable person to be around and I would get her visit over with as soon as possible. Let her visit that weekend but don’t allow that to ruin your game day plans. Tell her you and your family will not be available for the entire day and go somewhere she cannot find you to enjoy the football games. Prior to her visit, establish a code word with your family to use when feelings are getting hurt where you can get your children away from the woman when they need a break. Your family needs a team approach to facing this adversity and that means no work trips for your spouse during that time. If he is anything like my spouse, dealing with his mother is much worse for him than your experience.

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Posted by SoDakHawk

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Member since Jun 2014

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Posted on 7/20/15 at 3:47 pm to Kreweofwayne

Got halfway through this thread and have to reply. I can't believe some of you on here, the OP is totally in the right here. There is no way the in-laws should just invite themsleves over when they want to. The OP gave them alternate dates but they, for some reason, don't want to bring their retired butts to visit on those days. This isn't about football, this is about common decency. The OP just mentions football because she is working her butt off right now (yes, managing a herd of that size is a ton of work) and is looking forward to that day. I guess it would be different if the in-laws would participate in family events, instead it sounds like they just move in and take over the house and everything has to be done their way. Yeah, I'd tell my spouse "No" too, doesn't matter the time of year.

Also, about the burning up the credit card comment, I know you were just talking junk because your husband bailed out and left you stuck there with the in-laws. Some of these people here don't get it, talking about financial responsibility. They never stopped to ask whether you can afford to burn up the credit card. I'm guessing if you are selling off a herd of 2,000 cattle you can afford whatever it is you bought with that card. Given today's prices, feeder cattle are going at about $215, avg weight of 1,200 lbs, 2,000 head. You're sitting on about $5 million worth of beef there. That's OT baller money.

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Posted by alphaandomega

Tuscaloosa-Here to Serve

Member since Aug 2012

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Posted on 7/20/15 at 4:39 pm to HaveMercy

After you cull down the herd you should remodel your house to only have a master bedroom and rooms for your children.

I am speaking from experience. We used to have a house that had a guest room. Our new house has no guest room, I will gladly pay for a hotel room when my in-laws come into town. It has worked out perfectly.

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Posted by HaveMercy

Member since Dec 2014

3000 posts

Posted on 7/20/15 at 10:28 pm to SoDakHawk

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$5 million worth of beef

Aw man, I wish! About a 1/3 of the herd are/were calves and the operating expenses can get high. But it is a damned good living. I wish I could have kept it the way it was, but I simply cannot manage it and still be a good Mom and wife. Hoping I can manage 500.
So many family farms, all crops, are being sold to developers to make subdivisions. It makes me sad.
There is actually quite a bit of money to be made in small cow/calf operations. Anybody that has 50-60 acres can easily run about 20 cows and a bull on weekends and in their spare time and make a good bit of money. I wish more people would look into it. Met a couple earlier who were putting a small herd together to save money for their kids college.

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