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re: How do you stop beating yourself up over past mistakes?
Posted on 7/8/20 at 1:16 pm to lionking69
Posted on 7/8/20 at 1:16 pm to lionking69
Your future is much larger than your past. Don’t let whatever happened continue to affect your daily. Make whatever change you need to live in the now and enjoy the time you have left on this earth. Stop worrying about what other people think. Life is too short to be stuck in the past.
FYI, don’t look at all of your decisions as irreversible. Fix what can be fixed and move on from what can’t.
FYI, don’t look at all of your decisions as irreversible. Fix what can be fixed and move on from what can’t.
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Posted on 7/8/20 at 1:26 pm to lionking69
Lexapro
Posted on 7/8/20 at 1:36 pm to lionking69
Try meditation.
Posted on 7/8/20 at 1:42 pm to Gaston
quote:
There is no such thing as forgiveness, for you or anyone. We are all a collection of every action we’ve ever taken. Work to pull up the average. You can still be the person you want to be, but never forget or forgive yourself..
Posted on 7/8/20 at 1:59 pm to lionking69
Realize that there is no future in the past, learn from it, forgive yourself and trust the Lord to lead you forward. I’d recommend right now, pick up your phone, google Third Day-Cry out to Jesus. Start there and begin to listen to comtemperary Christian music and listen to the meaning. Third Day, Casting Crowns, Kari Jobe, Jeremy Camp, David Crowder Band, there are some great ones and the Word will lead you.
This post was edited on 7/10/20 at 10:33 pm
Posted on 7/8/20 at 2:03 pm to lionking69
Don't condemn yourself over a past mistake that likely ONLY YOU are concerned about! Feel freedom in learning the lesson and move on to better things.
However, If you've wronged someone, admit to them the whole truth (be vulnerable to earn trust), admit you were wrong for no other reason than YOU made a poor choice (own it for authenticity), ask for forgiveness (the only step where you are not in control), and then work to regain your reputation by doing the right thing!
If you've done the above, and the person/persons still condemn or judge your character based on a mistake that you've admitted to and asked forgiveness for and have made an effort to "fix," it's probably ok to move on from that relationship in as much capacity as possible (obviously you can't cut all ties all the time)! There will always be regret, but mistakes are the only way for true healthy growth beyond what you think is possible... just own it and DON'T condemn yourself!
A good philosophy to let go of regret is:
In order to be old and wise, we must first be young and dumb!!!
Looking into the future:
Faith and fear have more in common than just the first letter. Both believe in a future that hasn't happened yet. Make a choice to live in the faith of a better tomorrow! Don't live in fear as worrying about tomorrow is a thief of today's joy.
Dr. Victor Frankl paraphrased:
Your potential in this world is your meaning! Actualize that potential in whatever capacity it may be (a reason for your suffering, a contribution to the world or relationship/s, or an experience). When potential is actualized it's no longer potential and it leaves the world with a history of your meaning forever!
However, If you've wronged someone, admit to them the whole truth (be vulnerable to earn trust), admit you were wrong for no other reason than YOU made a poor choice (own it for authenticity), ask for forgiveness (the only step where you are not in control), and then work to regain your reputation by doing the right thing!
If you've done the above, and the person/persons still condemn or judge your character based on a mistake that you've admitted to and asked forgiveness for and have made an effort to "fix," it's probably ok to move on from that relationship in as much capacity as possible (obviously you can't cut all ties all the time)! There will always be regret, but mistakes are the only way for true healthy growth beyond what you think is possible... just own it and DON'T condemn yourself!
A good philosophy to let go of regret is:
In order to be old and wise, we must first be young and dumb!!!
Looking into the future:
Faith and fear have more in common than just the first letter. Both believe in a future that hasn't happened yet. Make a choice to live in the faith of a better tomorrow! Don't live in fear as worrying about tomorrow is a thief of today's joy.
Dr. Victor Frankl paraphrased:
Your potential in this world is your meaning! Actualize that potential in whatever capacity it may be (a reason for your suffering, a contribution to the world or relationship/s, or an experience). When potential is actualized it's no longer potential and it leaves the world with a history of your meaning forever!
Posted on 7/8/20 at 2:03 pm to lionking69
We are not perfect but need support systems whether that is family or church, etc.... but don’t ever trust that somebody won’t tell your mistake... otherwise deal with it. Personally I don’t trust anyone, but if you’ve made a mistake someone knows
This post was edited on 7/8/20 at 2:09 pm
Posted on 7/8/20 at 2:48 pm to Gaston
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There is no such thing as forgiveness, for you or anyone. We are all a collection of every action we’ve ever taken. Work to pull up the average. You can still be the person you want to be, but never forget or forgive yourself...
What a dumb take. You sound miserable
Posted on 7/8/20 at 3:02 pm to lionking69
well if i beat myself up over past mistakes i would have beaten myself to death a long time ago...
learn from them and be better because of them...
life is in front of you... good memories behind you
learn from them and be better because of them...
life is in front of you... good memories behind you
Posted on 7/8/20 at 4:10 pm to lionking69
What purpose would it serve to keep all that negativity in your heart and head. You can't change what was done.
All you can do is ask for forgiveness from the person/persons you hurt and accept their decision whether they will forgive you or not. And know even though they may forgive you, they will never forget-----and you have to live with that.
Then go on with life and try your best to be a better person and not repeat past mistakes.
All you can do is ask for forgiveness from the person/persons you hurt and accept their decision whether they will forgive you or not. And know even though they may forgive you, they will never forget-----and you have to live with that.
Then go on with life and try your best to be a better person and not repeat past mistakes.
Posted on 7/8/20 at 4:39 pm to gumbo2176
From Emerson:
Write it on your heart
that every day is the best day in the year.
He is rich who owns the day, and no one owns the day
who allows it to be invaded with fret and anxiety.
Finish every day and be done with it.
You have done what you could.
Some blunders and absurdities, no doubt crept in.
Forget them as soon as you can, tomorrow is a new day;
begin it well and serenely, with too high a spirit
to be cumbered with your old nonsense.
This new day is too dear,
with its hopes and invitations,
to waste a moment on the yesterdays.
Write it on your heart
that every day is the best day in the year.
He is rich who owns the day, and no one owns the day
who allows it to be invaded with fret and anxiety.
Finish every day and be done with it.
You have done what you could.
Some blunders and absurdities, no doubt crept in.
Forget them as soon as you can, tomorrow is a new day;
begin it well and serenely, with too high a spirit
to be cumbered with your old nonsense.
This new day is too dear,
with its hopes and invitations,
to waste a moment on the yesterdays.
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