re: Going on a date with a divorced chick (UPDATE page 37)

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Secks was had. All I’m gonna say for now.

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atta boy

Doesn’t matter, still had secks. Right?

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Damn looks like I owe you $350

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Fixed

So the third date is tonight, after I had been in Colorado all of last week. She hasn't once mentioned her ex since the first date, which is a good sign. Wish me luck baws!

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Get it wet.

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She's coming to my place, so I suppose we'll play apartment musical chairs.

So I find myself in a rather interesting situation. Long story short, things with this girl progressed into a relationship. We get each other on almost all levels and have a freaking blast whenever we go out. In our short time dating, she feels like my best friend as well as my girlfriend. That sort of connection is extremely rare.

We agreed Thursday to be an exclusive couple. On Saturday, she went to a wedding, for which she did not get a +1, so I didn't go with her. She invited me to meet her and some of the other wedding goers out at the bar afterwards. I show up at the bar, and I catch her grinding with and making out with another guy. I get angry as hell and yell at her at the bar, right in front of everyone. She is so drunk that she can barely stand up. The bar announces last call and kicks everyone out, and her friends leave, so I am stuck with her. I end up getting us an Uber (on her phone, I ain't paying for that shite!) back to my apartment, and let her sleep on the couch. She left her phone in the Uber - so at 4:30am I had to drive all the way down to Bankhead to fetch her phone from some random arse traphouse.

Yesterday morning, she was absolutely beside herself. She profusely apologized and was so emotional that she had to go yak in my toilet three times. She assured me that she's not a cheater, that she cares immensely about me, and that it makes her absolutely sick to know that she hurt me.

At the beginning, I was livid with her and was 95% sure that I was going to break up with her, but I gradually experienced a change of heart. She seems very sincere in her apologies and assurances that she is never ever going to put herself in that situation again. I have chosen to forgive her for this one incident and move forward.

Am I making the right decision here? I have to say - she definitely has very deep emotional issues stemming from her divorce and the fallout. Her ex husband emotionally cheated on her and put absolutely no effort into reconciling and repairing the marriage. In couples therapy, he blamed all of their issues on her and showed no remorse or will to fix his mistakes. He basically demonstrated that he couldn't care less about her. She showed me screenshots of texts he sent her, and reading them made me want to go find this motherfricker and fight him. She has been through the wringer in the past year, to say the least. She tells me all the time that ever since she started dating me, she's the happiest she's been as far as she can remember.

I think this one incident is a result of a lapse of judgement and care that stems from these issues. Starting a relationship with a new man in her life scares her to death, and I think she folded to the temptation/lack of concern, with the alcohol as an obvious aid to that notion. This is why I think I am going to let this incident slide. I like her way too much, and vice versa, for me to simply give up here.

Can anyone chime in? Paging you, LSUnurse.

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Can anyone chime in?

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This is all a joke, right??

If not, leave that bitch. Too many fish in the sea


but this has to be a joke

In this biatch


Maybe she thought she was dancing and grinding with you and not some random man until you started yelling at her.

This was a very impressive long con, strong.

I mean, she was hooking up with another dude. She wanted to do that. Alcohol be damned. Whatever makes you happy man. Probably not the best time for a relationship for her id say.