re: Do "honorary" pallbearers need to be present at a funeral?

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Maybe some people approach it differently but this is how I've always seem honorary pallbearers. They're either too old or too infirm to actually carry the casket.

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This was several years back, and my grandmother had passed right before Labor Day weekend. My grandpa made it to just after Easter the next year. I remember he came to live with my mom, since he had a couple of falls and we were worried about him living alone. He was a stubborn old man. One weekend my little sister was over there visiting him, and he told her to get out a piece of paper. He told her exactly how he wanted his funeral to go, who the pall bearers should be, family and honorary, what songs to play/sing, and who was going to sing them. That was around February, and he passed in April. So of course we did exactly as he told us.