re: Any advice for married man who wants sex?

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I have never asked twice in a row.

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I am very lucky in this department. We have been married for 29 years and I honestly do not think my wife has EVER said no. I am sure she has but it is rare. We are pretty much in synch in that department and she is still pretty randy LOL....way closer to the level when we were in our 20's than I am. It doesn't matter what's going on, if we are pissed with one another or stress levels are through the she is always in the mood. Not a lot of extra curricular stuff like there once was, mostly simple marital sex, but we still play occasionally....enough to keep things interesting.

I still go out of my way to treat her like a girlfriend instead of a wife because I have reaped the benefits and frankly she is worth the effort. I am a romantic at heart so it comes easy for me and she appreciates the effort....I know because her reaction is honest and obvious.

The biggest thing we have going for us, in my opinion, is we do not have unrealistic expectations for one another. We accept one another's short comings and idiocy and usually laugh about them and make fun of one another about them. We also do not ever not say exactly whats on our mind and do not hesitate to conduct a marital discussion.....if you didn't know us well you'd think we hated one another as much as we argue...but its ALWAYS good natured and neither of us ever take it overly serious. Out kids are all the time asking, rhetorically, how did y'all ever get married??? At the same time they have both come to us independent of one another and had serious discussions about our adopting kids who need a home.....that speaks volumes about how they see us and earning that kind of respect from your kids is the most gratifying thing I can think of.