re: Another heartbreak, I'm just done with dating...

The worst thing to do with a woman is be too available

You have to keep your communication with her to an absolute minimum when you are not out with her

If you talk to her too much via text or online or whatever it conveys you have literally nothing better to do than sit around and try to talk to her. Overinvestment is what kills any attraction. And women want to be with men who have fun and have a fun life. A man who has too much time to talk with her that much comes off as having zero life and a boring life

"Wow this guy is always chatting me up and sending me messages, he must have no life. Why would I want to go out with him when I could go out with another man who seems more fun"

Even ugly women get loads of male attention daily. Don't agree with me? Ask any girl how much messages and inboxes she gets daily on social media and dating sites. A lot. You aren't the only one talking to these women. They have loads of men trying to win their attention. You need to stand out. I bet this woman has had dozens of long "get to know you" convos with tons of men. It's nothing new. So how will you stand out? Less is more. Let the other guys blow up her inbox and send her long arse messages. You need to keep it to a minimum. If you can't get her out she wasn't interested anyway and you just move onto the next girl

It's all a numbers game. Really. The more women you talk to the more chance of success you will have. Options and abundance. Don't get caught up on one or two women. That's not good. Cast your net wider. Yes I have success with women but it's a numbers game. I get shot down far more than I do succeed. But since I talk to so many women I just need to have success with a small percentage

No matter how good you look or how confident you are some women will just reject you. It's nothing to do with you. Maybe she is on her period or didn't want to cheat on her boyfriend or is having a bad day or whatever. This number is around 50% even for the best looking men. Out of the 50% who don't reject you off the bat maybe half will be willing to talk to you. It's about finding the 25% willing to talk to you and having good game to close with them whether it be a number or kiss or sex

1. S(he's) probably catfishing you

2. You're heartbroken after a week of emailing someone you've never met?

I would say to stop putting so much focus on having a relationship and letting it control your happiness. Women can pick up on desperation very easily.

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Hmmm lets see, someone who is down to earth and intelligent, someone who I can have good deep conversations with. Someone who believes that honesty and openness are critical to any successful relationship. A woman who enjoys a variety of activities and trying new activities. A woman who preferably is not interested in having children and wants to do a lot of traveling. A woman who believes in God but isn't crazy religious. A woman who more than anything wants to connect on a deep personal level.

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give or take about what i thought you would say

so what hallmark card did you pull that off of lol?

you don't have any original thoughts of your own. you have no idea what you really want in a woman because you haven't lived live. .

if you don't know what you want in a woman, you can't become the amn it takes to get that woman


think of dating as going fishing. a big arse pond full of fish. to attract each type of woman (fish) you got to use different types of bait.

by you saying you want a woman who is intelligent, down to earth and what not you're basically saying "i want to catch fish lol. no shite sherlock we all want to catch fish. who the frick wants to marry a stupid materialistic self centered lazy arse lol?


go out and live life. have some experiences. figure out what you like. figure out what you don't like. figure out what you want in a woman based on your experiences. then become the man it takes to get that woman. Because casting your line out with no bait on it isn't gonna work

You're dropping some good knowledge for this dude, but I'm afraid it's a waste of time. He's not going to take any of the advice.

But you're probably wired as frick and don't mind.

you don't plant seeds to; eat now, you plant seeds for future harvest. the seed is being planted when the one day he can't take it anymore and takes some real advice

damn if i were single GN would be my wingman lol we'd wreck the frick out of a bar

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Thank you for the advice GN. I am pretty tired so I'm heading off the bed but I will look at all these posts here in the morning.

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Also remember this about single moms

You know they bang so open up that border a little

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damn if i were single GN would be my wingman lol we'd wreck the frick out of a bar

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Lol I love that dude - no homo I think

Wasn't that bad. I don't always agree with you, but that was good advice to the OP. Looking back, my husband operated like that. It worked.