re: Scenario: If you were dating a girl for <1 year, got her pregnant- Would you marry?

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You can be an active and engaged dad without being married.

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What you say is true, but our society has a tendency to provide the exception as the rule to make people feel better about themselves and reduce the pressure on making difficult choices. Which leads to people lying to themselves about how they'll take the comfortable/convenient road now and put in the hard work later.

Being unmarried and being a good dad is very admirable, but I'm going to guess it takes a ton of commitment and work. And most people opting for it aren't going to put in the effort to close the gap.